A Mafia Godfather confessed to Pope: "Your Holiness, I have sinned, I killed so many people, how can I ever be a good person"?  His Holiness replied: "Pretend, my son, pretend, and you'll be a good man".

My dearest son, we all have conditions and shortcomings, but we also have our strengths.  Between you and I per my understanding, here's what I think we can do to get a sort of "pseudo re-wiring" of our brain circuitry, so that we utilize our brilliance to overcome and amend our drawbacks.

When we feel we are being fair to others, make an extra effort to give more, concede more, tolerate more, accommodate more, then tell ourself: "Now that's fair".

When we think we are not being self-absorbed at all, let's try to be preoccupied with others' issues.

When we don't feel we are being verbose, let others do the talk still.

When we feel others are not paying enough attention to us, listen to them more.

When we think we are being overly empathetic, empathize even more.

When we think we are right, let others be "right" also.

When we know we are absolutely right, let others be wrong, and that's all right.  We know better.

When we think we are just being passionate, not anxious, let's chill up and calm down.

When we feel anger and aggression, render some love within ourself and toward others.  Appease them affably.

When we feel others have wronged us, "right" them instead of striving for our vindication.  Let them feel justified .

When things are uptight and tense, give some humor.

All these anti-intuition practices are a cognizant, intentional effort to bigger and better ourself.  They are pragmatic and methodical, not at all pretentious.  Brilliance has its cost, the cost being adversarial efforts trying to defeat us, so that the inferiors have a chance to succeed in human evolution.  That's another type of intelligence -- they know our Achilles heels.  We allow all to live and thrive, but to maintain superiority we morph ourself into a higher being.  And that, is stronger than intelligence.