D told me his mom would like to have a girl's day out with me.

"...She said she does not call you because she does not know what day you are off..." D said in a giggling tone of voice like it is funny. "She said she would pay for the gas."

I see. But why ON EARTH would I want to go out with her? I can think of a lot more things to do when I don't go to work. Besides, she has my email address. She has my phone # where I have the answering machine on all time. I don't get it when she said she "can not reach me." BULLSH*T. Did she even try?

"She probably has not been out for a couple of weeks after dad had a surgery..."D continued.

But lets not forget that Joe, my brother in law, MIL's youngest son, still lives in the basement with his old folks. What does she need me for a ride anyway? My MIL gave up driving some 50 years ago when she had a car accident that almost killed a kid on the street. My father in law has since been driving Miss Daisy.

I do NOT quite follow what my hubby was trying to tell me here. Just because she has not been out and I will have to take her out?

Then how about the first 2 years when I did not have a drivers license here, I sat my fat ass at home waiting for my hubby to come home to get me out of the house? She sure did not try to have a girl's day out with me, huh? HELLO?

"...But I do not like Applebee." I said. I have to find something why I don't want to go.

MIL likes Applebee. And Applebee only. We do NOT have anything in common. "sigh"

"I may take her to Long John Silver (a fish and chip place.)...if she likes. You know the one at Rochester Hill.." I suggested.

"Well, she might want to go to the one in downtown detroit...."D said.

EXCUSE ME? She does not even drive and she wants to be choosey? Beggers can not be choosers. Whats wrong with this old lady?

EVERYTHING wrong!

" Then tell her that her own daughter can come pick her up for 'a girl's day out'.."I told D. That will NOT be the first time when mother and daughter go out WITHOUT me anyway.

I should not blame for the fact that MIL loves her own daughter than me. But she should NOT let me know it when she packed more food for Maria to go home with over any holidays. Or what she bought for Maria for her birthday. Or what she got Maria for...WHATEVER.

Matter of fact, I was NOT considered to be "one of the family" for the first several years after D and I got married. When MIL said she would like to have a "family picture" taken, she meant her 3 sons and the daughter.  NO daughter in law. EVER.

"...I'll tell noonie that you will be home tomorrow and you do not want to take her out..."D still thought it was funny. "then you will feel obligated to take her out..."

"OBLIGATED? I do NOT feel obligatedd when I do NOT call my own mom every week...not to mention SHE IS YOUR MOM." I said. I turned around and left the kitchen.

I felt hurt and annoyed.