it was said that everyone had his own fate.
In Australia, We had a very close Australian friend who was exploring her family tree and got in touch with some newly found cousins in USA. (I did not get the chance to ask them how she felt eventually.)
I also knew some people whose families fell apart for different kinds of cause.
For many people like your family in Taiwan, all have been blessed to be ables to grow up in Taiwan and enjoy good retired life and have extended the family happy and healthy. You guys are lucky enough to be able to remember and try to study the older generation's life.
With such blessing, isn't it right for you guys to be grateful and to re-connect the world in the mainland with love instead of staying self-pity forever for the rest of your life and next generations?
The life of people who stayed in China were much worse than your parents.Yes, you may call yourself Taiwanese, but you do not have to cut yourself off from Chinese origin.
I am aTaiwanese with the ancestors from mainland earlier than your parents. We have no contact or knowledge about our previous generations what so ever, but I have felt very much at home in China since I came to China and got to know Chinese people only 4 years ago.
I have sympathy with Chinese people whilst they do not complain.
Taiwanese people are in the postion for Chinese to be envious, but they do not stop complaining and sighing. It seems wierd from my viewpoint.