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96/04/04 晨 一個良好的態度是很重要的，因為它會嚴重影響到家人的關係、社交生活和終身的事業；我們與他人互動的每一個回應可能非常有建設性或是非常有毀滅性，不管怎麼樣，忽略這一點，而用不好的態度對待他人，很可能會使我們在許多情況下遭受慘痛的結果，因此我們應該要培養良好的態度，碰到有衝突的情況時也要留心自己的反應。 一個人的態度會深刻地影響他/她的家人，我記得有一個故事談到一位父親在他女兒早上打翻了牛奶時的反應，當這個小女孩把牛奶弄得滿桌滿地時，他對她大吼大叫，然後這位小女孩就開始大哭大鬧，接下來媽媽就跑過來安慰小女孩，同時一面抱怨著孩子的爸爸不該吼小孩，一面清理被打翻的牛奶；經過這場令人不適又煩人的狀況之後，他們上班上課都遲到了，每個人都度過了一個壓力重重的一天。從另一個角度來看，假如這位父親忍住自己的脾氣，所有的事情都會有不同的結果，每位家人都能有更好的心情，他們將可能完成更多的事情，或者把快樂散播給他人。 一個人的良好態度能吸引更多的朋友，然而不好的態度卻能把大部分的人都嚇跑，假如一個人態度傲慢自負，或是有很強烈的偏見，他們的社交生活就會面臨許多的困難。這裡有幾個例子可以解釋，態度是如何影響人們的社交；有一次某人請我吃晚餐，吃飯的時候，他談論的內容全都圍繞在他的財富和他的社會地位，因為他的態度實在太高傲了，讓我覺得備受壓力，當然這種態度絕對無法吸引我，反而給了我惡劣的印象。另一個例子是關於有強烈偏見的人，他聲稱自己在英國劍橋大學拿到兩個碩士，在美國拿到一個博士，雖然他在台灣工作，可是他深為自己是受過高等教育的英國人而驕傲，言談之間，輕蔑地表示，他看不起台灣衰弱的政治情勢和日漸衰退的經濟，他還傲慢地說，他根本就不在乎中國人的文化和台灣的價值；他的態度既狂傲又充滿偏見歧視，所以我認為他是個討人厭的人，在台灣也絕對交不到幾個朋友。如果一個人的態度親切和善又心胸開闊，那他/她與人互動的情形將會更良好，這樣的態度絕對能改善他們的社交生活。 我認識兩種典型的人，他們可以證明，在職場上良好態度的好處，以及態度惡劣的壞處；這個人是我以前公司的經理，他不僅用專業的才能，也用十分良好的態度與老闆、下屬和同事溝通，因此贏得了董事長的信任。另一方面，有一位台大畢業的業務員，他對客戶和同事的態度卻很惡劣，他傲慢到可以無理地掛掉客戶打來的國際電話，還常常在公司電腦的螢幕桌面上放裸女的照片，也不在乎這種行為會不會冒犯到其他的同事，所以幾個月後他被公司開除時，大家一點都不吃驚。 態度跟我們的生活息息相關， 所以隨時注意我們對待他人的態度是必要的，如果我們想要一個幸福的人生，培養良好的態度就是達成這個目標最好的方式；有時候我們可能認為這件事情沒什麼大不了，可是一個良好的態度卻能幫我們達成維繫家人親情、建立良好社交和成功事業的目標，最重要的是，讓這個世界變成一個更適合人居住的地方。 The Importance of a Positive Attitude A positive attitude is important because it would seriously affect family relationships, social life and career. Each of our reactions in the interaction with people could be very constructive or destructive. However, neglecting this and treating others with a bad manner might lead us to suffer a lot in many situations; therefore we should cultivate a positive attitude and heed of our reaction when encountering some conflicting situations. A person’s attitude can affect his or her family members profoundly. I remember a story about how a father responds to his daughter when she spilled a glass of milk in the morning. When the little girl just spilled the milk all over the table and the floor, he shouted at her, then the little girl started to cry aloud, and then the mother tried to comfort the little girl, meantime also complaining to the father about his actions, and cleaning up the mess. After they have been through all these uneasy and annoying situations, they are late for work and late for the school. Every member of the family might endure a stressful day. On the other hand, if the father just holds his temper, then everything would turn out very differently. Every member of the family would start the day in a better mood, and they would achieve more and perhaps spread happiness to others. A person’s positive attitude can attract more friends but a negative attitude can scare most people away. If people have a snobbish attitude or having a strong prejudice, they will face difficulty in their social life. Here are some examples to explicate how attitude would affect people’s social life. Once I met a person who invited me for a dinner, and during the dinner, all of his conversation was surrounding in his wealth and his social status. His attitude was so cocky, which made me feel under a lot of pressure. Certainly this kind of attitude did not attract me; on the contrary, he made the opposite impression. Another example concerns someone who held a strong prejudice. He claimed that he got two master degrees from Cambridge University in UK and one PhD from United States. Although he was working in Taiwan, he was proud of being an educated British and acted contemptuously as if he despised Taiwan’s weak political situation and declining economy, he also snobbishly said that he didn’t care about Chinese culture or other Taiwanese values. His attitude was full of pride and prejudice, so I think he was a nasty person who definitely would not make many friends in Taiwan. If a person’s attitude is amiable and liberal, then he or she will have a much better interaction with other people and this will surely improve their social life. I have known two archetypes of people who could demonstrate the advantages for having a positive attitude and the disadvantages for having a negative attitude in a career. The man was my former manager who won the president of the company’s trust not only with his professional ability but also with his positive attitude in communicating with his boss, subordinates and colleagues alike. On the other hand, there was a salesman who graduated from the NTU but with a lousy attitude towards our clients and co-workers. He was so arrogant that he could rudely hang up international phone calls from our customers. He also constantly displayed half naked girls’ pictures on the screen of his office computer and did not care if this behaviour would offend other colleagues or not. So nobody was surprised to see him fired after a few months. Attitude is tightly linked to our life, so being mindful with our attitude toward people around us is essential. If we want to have a happy life, cultivating a positive attitude is one of the best ways to achieve this goal. Sometimes we may think it is not a big deal, but a positive attitude can actually help us achieve our goals in consolidating family relationship, building up a good social life and a successful career, and most of all, making the world a better place to live.
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