梅村在世界舉辦許多禪修營都非常歡迎全家親子大小共同參加，練習正念不是成年後才需要，小孩其實更需要，新生命出生之後面臨著許多親子議題，若小孩說不出口卻跟著受苦也更辛苦。就自己的個人經驗，雖然家庭環境良好關係友善，還是有那許多絲絲的情緒與心靈課題潛伏其中，至今沒有碰過＂沒有家庭議題＂的人，有時反而社會地位越高，越難誠實處理家庭議題或創傷經驗，不說出問題不代表沒有的朋友更是不在少數。

剛開始我對禪師的正念禪修不甚了解，不曉得這些有關親子的修習是想要幹什麼，在此之前幾年我已經用著花精療法處理與父母、家庭的關係，道場或儒家思想薰習下的孝道自己也還算是個好女兒卻走著辛苦。究竟正念修習，呼吸、呼吸，還能帶給我什麼進展跟益處嗎？


 

在這幾年感覺到正念禪修的好處是漸進式展開的，更多時候是在行禪的時候化解了自己心裡的負擔，說起來很玄妙只是專心走路可以有這麼大的幫助，因為正念走路讓心安靜了，然後就看到各種不同過往的創傷、痛苦浮現，每一步把這些經驗交給大地，轉化成為當下此刻的安心，若能禪師與僧團一起走路更能享受到那份被支持的力量，幫助自己轉化痛苦。

從外鄉間小路看Lower halmet

Lower halmet書店

以下這段引導禪是禪師在The Blooming of a Lotus 裡面，特別針對親子關係，

不論坐禪行禪都可以用來提醒自己，每個呼吸與腳步都要當下安穩，與您分享:

Seeing myself as a five-year-old child, I breathe in.

Smiling to the five-year-old child, I breathe out.

Myself five years old,  Smiling

Seeing the five-year-old as fragile and vulnerable, I breathe in.

Smiling with love to the five-year-old girl, I breathe out.

Five-years-old ,  Fragile,  Smiling with love

Seeing my father as a five-year-old boy, I breathe in.

Smiling to my father as a five-year-old boy, I breathe out.

Father five years old  ,Smiling

Seeing my five-year-old father a fragile and vulnerable, I breathe in.

Smiling with love and understanding to my father as a five-year-old boy, I breath out.

Father fragile and vulnerable

Smiling with love and understanding

Seeing my mother as a five-year-old girl, I breathe in

Smiling to my mother as a five-year-old girl, I breathe out.

Mother five years old  ,Smiling

Seeing my five-years-old mother as fragile and vulnerable, I breathe in.

Smiling with love and understanding to my mother as five-year-old girl, I breathe out.

Mother fragile and vulnerable

Smiling with love and understanding

Seeing my father suffering as a child, I breathe in.

Seeing my mother suffering as a child, I breathe out.

Father suffering as a child

Mother suffering as a child

Seeing my father in me, I breathe in.

Smiling to my father in me, I breathe out.

Father in me  ,Smiling

Seeing my mother in me, I breathe in.

Smiling to my mother in me, I breathe out.

Mother in me  ,Smiling

Understanding the difficulties that my father in me has, I breathe in.

Determined to work for the release of both my father and me, I breathe out.

Difficulties of father in me

Releasing father and me

Understanding the difficulties that my mother in me has, I breathe in.

Determined to work for the release of both my mother and me, I breathe out.

Difficulties of mother in me

Releasing mother and me

這本口袋書是講關於母女母子議題，非常簡單卻深刻的修習


 

在這次夏天拜訪梅村禪修營中，我也處理與家人的問題，因而有幾天感到非常焦慮與憂心，想要馬上去電聯繫台灣，接著我發現這股多年跟著自己不安穩的能量浮現越來越多，因此決定隔天的行禪後再來處理。隔一天，我如常跟著僧團的行程，但都給自己一個功課，關注每一步，每一步都為了家人跟我的安穩而走，希望這份正念能量傳遞給身在法國的我，也送給身在台灣的家人。

團體活動結束後，我獨自慢步在lower hamelt的森林中，聽著樹林細語，不需要人類語言他們就懂得我正在處理自己的痛苦，我知道大地支持著我。正念慢步後我才回電台灣，這份正念能量讓彼此安穩住，之後幾天在梅村的生活感覺到那股不安穩的能量越變越少越小。

本篇跟大家分享在lower  hametl的禪修環境與很適合行禪的森林 (梅村每個halmet都有自己的行禪路線，都很棒)

在lower hamlet的某日下午行禪，一個西班牙媽媽把小嬰兒帶著一起行禪時，嬰兒哇哇大哭吵著喝奶，這位媽媽沒有焦慮就邊行禪邊哺乳，嬰兒邊哭，sisters跟禪修朋友們照樣慢慢走在森林小道。一開始我很驚訝，想說這位媽媽怎麼不好好找個地方餵奶，邊走邊餵小嬰兒不舒服當然大哭，且公眾哺乳這件事情，在"道場"即使在梅村，我都沒想過是可以接受的，但梅村的環境不僅是接受，且最後幾位禪修者獻花給這位努力行禪的媽媽。

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