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Sustainable Love 支持的愛

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節錄自The Happy Marriage Is the ‘Me’ Marriage By TARA PARKER-POPE Published: December 31, 2010

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For centuries, marriage was viewed as an economic and social institution, and the emotional and intellectual needs of the spouses were secondary to the survival of the marriage itself. But in modern relationships, people are looking for a partnership, and they want partners who make their lives more interesting.

長久以來，婚姻被視為一種經濟和社會制度，而次之才是情感與心智層面上對伴侶的需求。但現代兩性關係中，人們尋找的是合作夥伴，是能使生活更有趣的伴侶。

Caryl Rusbult, a researcher in Amsterdam, called it the “Michelangelo effect,” referring to the manner in which close partners “sculpt” each other in ways that help each of them attain valued goals.

一位阿姆斯特丹的研究員Caryl Rusbult稱之為｢米開朗基羅效應｣，意指親密伴侶以幫助彼此實現價值目標的方式，｢塑造｣對方。

“People have a fundamental motivation to improve the self and add to who they are as a person,” Dr. Lewandowski says. “If your partner is helping you become a better person, you become happier and more satisfied in the relationship.”

｢人們基本上都想改進自己，讓自己更豐富，｣Lewandowski博士表示：｢如果你的伴侶正在影響你成為一個更好的人，你將在這段關係裡變得更滿足、更快樂。｣

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