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讓一個人「習慣」你的存在(補上第四式)
2006/02/27 08:06:48瀏覽4693|回應24|推薦85

在『窈窕淑女』電影中,除了充滿憧憬的賣花女Eliza睡前唱”I Could Have Danced All Night”,年輕小白臉Freddy在街上唱”On the Street Where You Live”,還有便是屬於老人類型浪漫的Higgins教授 I've Grown Accustomed To Her Face了,後者歌詞(見文末)告白帶著令人感動的愚蠢,因為發現Eliza不再屬於自己~~與前面兩首大相逕庭,從活生生的生活真實面,訴說情愫如何微妙地萌芽。 

愛情之後,讓一個人「習慣」你的存在,是一件了不得的事。 

1】讓他習慣你的傾聽

    因為工作的事說得太多太仔細,他才懶得再向另一個人說那麼多

    為了讓他多說,記得多問候

    要記住他說的人名與專有名辭,對某那些人的好惡與評語,並且讓他知道你記得

    適時反應你的同仇敵慨

    要多問不難也不簡單的問題,或提出有趣的觀察

    記得在他表現值得稱讚的地方,一定不吝贊美 

2】讓他習慣你的鋒芒

    大場合見面務必讓他與眾人驚豔,儀態萬千

    適度裝扮是一種雙方面的尊重、也是讓你維持多變與豐富面貌讓人不易看膩的工具

    不要隱藏你的幽默風趣,但是小心老說冷笑話

    只帶他去你可以發揮魅力的場合,或你們可以獨處的場合

    他的場子讓他多說,自己適度幾句風趣或客氣話即可,但要常(傻)笑

    你的場子不要逼他多說,記得時而關心一下他的感受 

3做到了上述兩點,你就更可以開始著手讓他習慣你的懶散

    小場合見面總是簡單樸素,對方也省了盛裝,給雙方舒適的自由

    懶散的衣著之餘,不要忘記偶爾帶點性感專用的懶散衣(如,超大T shirt當裙裝,兒童不宜)

    乾淨杯子夠用就好、灰塵不太厚便可,免得家事要做一輩子

    上招要用減敏法(醫學上過敏治療方式之一),每次"多亂一點點",直到亂到「正常」程度

    餐點不太簡陋便好,偶爾出現的大餐才會叫做恩賜

如果是真命天子/女,以上三點必能成功,如果不成功,也別太失望,顯然可以考慮「換人做看看」。

蕭伯納原著裏,沙文大男人Higgins教授還是沒有抱得美人歸,畢竟,兩個人性情與背景差異過大,而Higgins的浪漫,也只走到習慣兩字而已,對於愛情,怎麼夠用呢?

【4】 booster--有的疫苗如破傷風, 每10年得加強一劑, 叫booster, 才能維持效力,我們的"習慣論"也是一樣, 要讓對方,一段時間就感受到沒有"習慣"時的悲慘與快樂,才不致對於自由有太多想像,所以, 每年各自出遊一週, 應該是不錯的方式

My Fair Lady - I've Grown Accustomed to Her Face/The Ending

[In the street and Higgins is hurrying home in a huff.]
HIGGINS
Damn! Damn! Damn! Damn!
I've grown accustomed to her face.
She almost makes the day begin.
I've grown accustomed to the tune that
She whistles night and
.
Her smiles, her frowns,
Her ups, her downs
Are second nature to me now;
Like breathing out and breathing in.
I was serenely independent and content before we met;
Surely I could always be that way again-
And yet
I've grown accustomed to her look;
Accustomed to her voice;
Accustomed to her face.
[Spoken]
'Marry Freddy.' What an infantile idea. What a heartless,
wicked, brainless thing to do. But she'll regret, she'll
regret it. It's doomed before they even take the vow!
[Sung]
I can see her now, Mrs. Freddy Eynsford-Hill
In a wretched little flat above a store.
I can see her now, not a penny in the till,
And a bill collector beating at the door.
She'll try to teach the things I taught her,
And end up selling flowers instead.
Begging for her bread and water,
While her husband has his breakfast in bed.
In a year, or so, when she's prematurely grey,
And the blossom in her cheek has turned to chalk.
She'll come home, and lo, he'll have upped and run away
With a social-climbing heiress from New York.
Poor Eliza. How simply frightful!
How humiliating! How delightful!
How poignant it'll be on that inevitable night
When she hammers on my door in tears and rags.
Miserable and lonely, repentant and contrite.
Will I take her in or hurl her to the walls?
Give her kindness or the treatment she deserves?
Will I take her back or throw the baggage out?
But I'm a most forgiving man;
The sort who never could, ever would,
Take a position and staunchly never budge.
A most forgiving man.
But, I shall never take her back,
If she were even crawling on her knees.

Let her promise to atone;
Let her shiver, let her moan;
I'll slam the door and let the hell-cat freeze!
[Spoken]
'Marry Freddy'-h a!
[Sung]
But I'm so used to hear her say
'Good morning' ev'ry day.
Her joys, her woes,
Her highs, her lows,
Are second nature to me now;
Like breathing out and breathing in.
I'm very grateful she's a woman
And so easy to forget;
Rather like a habit
One can always break-
And yet,
I've grown accustomed to the trace
Of something in th
e air;
Accustomed to her face.

( 心情隨筆男女話題 )
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The rine in Spine stays meinly in the pline.
2006/02/27 21:43
Higgins 愛上的是變身前的Eliza還是變身後的Eliza?Lady的外表和發音都是可以教出來的,Higgins習慣了Eliza的改變,那一天她又現出原形了又怎麼辦呢?

神話裡的Pygmalion最後娶了他創造出來的雕像,男人愛的都是理想中的愛人啊~~~



這是Sir Cecil Beaton的攝影。這襲服裝和Ascot 賽馬會上的那一群「服裝表演」的貴婦的衣服和帽子應該也是他設計的。奧黛麗赫本穿成這個樣子要怎麼去上廁所?走路都不好走了!設計師都沒考慮衣服的實用性和合理性

導演George Cuker是同志,Cecil Beaton也是同志,賽馬會那一段實在是很同志美學哩~~



我的blog【拾夢記--回不去的Brideshead】,或是我與tinal關於Brideshead
Revisited的對話


■♀醫楊曉萍
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我最喜歡的還有一首
2006/02/27 16:46

Just You Wait Henrry Higgins,

Eliza想像把欺負她的大男人送上斷頭臺....



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幽默
2006/02/27 14:01

尤其看到 (3) 時, 發出會心的笑.

By the way, "My Fair Lady" 是我最最喜歡的電影之一. Audrey Hepburn 在跑馬場的那一身裝扮, 天哪!


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2006/02/27 11:06
怎麼只見文章中間有一塊空白?
是圖片還是?


七月,一片金紅豔豔。
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