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For my little angel....

Sorry, my dear little pumpkin, I didn’t realize that I hurt your feeling yesterday.

I saw your messy hair from distance when I went to the summer camp to pick you up. I was not happy seeing the untidy you. I have to admit that being picky on the neat look is one of my biggest weird weaknesses. The worst part was, I skipped the big sweet hug, and started to criticize you. I forgot the crazy look means that you had such a good time at the camp with your little fellows. I was focusing on my own thing and didn’t notice your uncomfortable and awkward feeling.

Today, when I met you, I opened my arms and waited for your hug. You didn’t offer your embrace back but instead, you asked me urgently “do I look perfect today?” I nodded with my puzzled mind. With eyes brightened for joy, you hugged me tightly. Suddenly I realized I’ve hurt your feeling yesterday for being so harsh on you. You kept the feeling inside the whole day and tried to cheer me up now by looking unreasonably good. Oh, you love me with all your heart and try so hard to meet my every single expectation.

I felt so embarrassed for being such an insensitive and mean mother. But you comforted me with your mighty heart, and reassured me that you think I’m the best mom in the whole world.

Sometimes I don't know how to be a good mom, I told you my frustration.

You giggled “you just have to be kidish to be a good mom, and not to forget the kid’s way of life.”

Are you trying to manipulate me my dear? But you are absolutely right about how to become a fabulous mom. You fascinate me everyday with your kidish way.

“Unless we change and become like little children, we will never enter the kingdom of heaven.”

I guess you kids are sent to the world to remind grown-ups how to turn ourselves back to think and behave like you, sweet little angels. My dear pumpkin, you are right for living a kid's way of life; and it's too early to follow the grown-up way of life. Meanwhile, I will try to get rid of my way of life, and to be kidish – just like you….

Love
Mom

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親愛的, 對不起, 媽媽不知道自己傷了妳的心.

昨天, 去夏令營接妳時, 沒給妳一個大大的擁抱, 遠遠看妳披頭散髮的, 就皺起眉了. 媽媽有個怪毛病, 喜歡女孩子乾淨清爽, 卻忘了這披頭散髮, 代表妳跟著小傢伙們瘋了一整天, 玩得有多開心. 我卻忙著數落妳, 沒注意到妳眼裏的委屈與失落.

今天, 見到妳時, 想給妳一個大大的擁抱, 妳卻忙著問我, 我的頭髮整齊嗎, 我訝異地點點頭, 妳的眼裏閃著驕傲的光芒, 緊緊地抱著我. 媽媽這才理解, 我是如何粗暴魯莽地傷了妳的感覺, 而妳又是如何在意我, 急著滿足我對妳的每一個小小的期待.

親愛的, 對不起, 媽媽這樣告訴妳, 有時媽媽不知道怎麼做一個好媽媽, 不小心傷了妳.

妳反過頭安慰我, 笑說 "在我心裏, 妳是世上最好的媽媽! 當好媽媽不難, 妳只要像個孩子啊, 並且記得孩子們是如何思想及生活的."

親愛的, 妳在想什麼鬼點子? 讓媽媽變成孩子? 但妳說對了, 一個好媽媽, 得瞭解童稚簡單的快樂. 妳的單純和體貼, 讓我深深著迷.

“若不回轉成小孩子的樣式就不能進天國”

孩子, 提醒每一個長大的人, 記得自己那曾經單純的心, 就像妳, 我親愛的寶貝.

就照妳說的吧, 妳無需太早跟從成人世界的規章, 媽媽會儘量進入妳的世界理解妳, 丟掉老老皺皺的包袱, 再變得像孩子一點, 再幼稚一點點…. 就像妳一樣.

Love

Mom
( 心情隨筆家庭親子 )
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Fly a kite
2009/07/03 09:04
Dear VS:
 
妳真是個好媽媽, 能了解孩子的心態. 偶而pre-occupied, 但終能察覺.
 
小孩的感覺是非常敏銳的. 我們大人常常忽視了他們的感受, 而他們是那麼的希望得到大人認同.
 
還記得Mary Poppins裏, Mr. Banks終於懷著赤子之心帶著孩子唱:
 
    Oh, oh, oh!
    Let's go fly a Kite
    up to the highest height!.....
 
Hope we all get a chance to fly a kite with children.
 
Apple
VS Always(vancouversoul) 於 2009-07-03 11:43 回覆:
Dear Apple,

First of all, thanks for help me correct my writing. 

我們大人常常忽視了他們的感受, 而他們是那麼的希望得到大人認同~~

真的是這樣的, 我就是個常犯錯的媽媽,  愛生氣 沒耐心, 但很會跟孩子道歉
幸而女兒人小量大

這個畫面想起來就很棒 -- Fly a kite with children ~~~~~
VS Always(vancouversoul) 於 2009-07-03 11:52 回覆:
Oooooops
thanks for helping me 

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what a sweet girl
2009/07/03 08:50

有時候,我們都忘了用孩子的心、眼去看事情,只憑自己的喜惡和期待,往往傷了孩子,也累了自己。

謝謝妳這篇充滿智慧的文章,從妳和令千金身上,我學到了很多。

VS Always(vancouversoul) 於 2009-07-03 11:29 回覆:
Dear Sunshine,
您說的好:
"我們都忘了用孩子的心、眼去看事情,只憑自己的喜惡和期待,往往傷了孩子,也累了自己"
我還蠻常犯這樣的錯,   因為我和女兒是那麼的不同,  免不了用了不少自己的標準.
現在終於慢慢理解, 小孩不需要我們"教"他們什麼, 愛/ 鼓勵/欣賞 是他們最渴望的了.
從女兒身上,  看到很多自己沒有的好特質  這也許是孩子要教我的事.

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