Who really get the true love?
I think no one in these people.
They pay a lot for their own love, no matter romance, attachment, or lust.

The romance-oriented still feel that romance will prove a rosy fairy-like tale for her love; however, she will find that romance dies when the passion gone. As a matter of fact, true love develops only when the practical trial in marriage expands their flexibility in love.

The attachment-oriented still feel that he find the final harbor for his love; however, he will find that attachment can’t guard his security but his own independence. And a mature love comes only when the couple is independently physically and mentally.

The lust-oriented still feel that she can explore as much freedom in lust as possible; however, she never know that her wild pursuit of lust is a destructive and no-end black hole which sip all her glory and energy, even her life.

What is true love? What is perfect love? What love is I am searching for?

I think
The love is self-expanding and changeable without romance. It is not fixed in only one to one relationship. It is everything or every people that can help me expand my own boundary to enlarge my life. As a result, it is a passion from a new friend, hobby, idea, and so on. It changes all the time but the unchanged is the principal but not the target; that is it is what makes me expand myself boundary, uplifting or enriching my life.

The love is independent without attachment. It is not searching for something to depend on but to empower me to be more independent in the lonely journey of life. There would be no burden, limitation, and fear but more self-reliance, self-worth, and freedom.

The love is constructive and disciplined without lust limiting its power only in sex. For sex is an addiction and drug which stop mmy keeping on my self-growth-endeavor. Only through consistent disciplined life can I get free from the trap of lust and spare enough time on something more meaningful in life.

All in all, the love that I am looking forward to is…

The love is a sincere action which devotes to nurturing my self-growth. It needs efforts, courage, and wisdom.

Consequently, my love is not fixed only in men but women; people but things; the rich but the poor; the live but the dead…………..

So which love are you searching for?