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Stumbling on Happiness ~ 自在、優雅地面對自己的人生
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Stumbling on happiness [Book] by Daniel Todd Gilbert in Books

Daniel Gilbert is the Harvard College Professor of Psychology at Harvard University. His research with Tim Wilson on "affective forecasting" investigates how and how well people can make predictions about the emotional impact of future events.

Stumbling on happiness [Book]

A smart and funny book by a prominent Harvard psychologist, which uses groundbreaking research and (often hilarious) anecdotes to show us why we're so lousy at predicting what will make us happy - and what we can do about it. Most of us spend our lives steering ourselves toward the best of all possible futures, only to find that tomorrow rarely turns out as we had expected. Why? As Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert explains, when people try to imagine what the future will hold, they make some basic and consistent mistakes. Just as memory plays tricks on us when we try to look backward in time, so does imagination play tricks when we try to lookforward. Using cutting-edge research, much of it original, Gilbert shakes, cajoles, persuades, tricks and jokes us into accepting the fact that happiness is not really what or where we thought it was. Among the unexpected questions he poses; Why are conjoined twins no less happy than the general population? When you go out to eat, is it better to order your favorite dish every time, or to try something new? If Ingrid Bergman hadn't gotten on the plane at the end of Casablanca, would she and Bogey have been better off? Smart, witty, accessible and laugh-out-loud funny, 'Stumbling on Happiness' brilliantly describes all that science has to tell us about the uniquely human ability to envision the future, and how likely we are to enjoy it when we get there.

http://www.randomhouse.com/kvpa/gilbert/author.htmlhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stumbling_on_Happiness

Summary

Gilbert's central thesis is that, through perception and cognitive biases, people imagine the future poorly, in particular what will make them happy. He argues that imagination fails in three ways:[1]

  1. Imagination tends to add and remove details, but people do not realize that key details may be fabricated or missing from the imagined scenario.
  2. Imagined futures (and pasts) are more like the present than they actually will be (or were).
  3. Imagination fails to realize that things will feel differently once they actually happen -- most notably, the psychological immune system will make bad things feel not so bad as they are imagined to feel.

The advice Gilbert offers is to use other people's experiences to predict the future, instead of imagining it. It is surprising how similar people are in much of their experiences, he says. He does not expect too many people to heed this advice, as our culture, accompanied by various thinking tendencies, is against this method of decision making.

Also, Gilbert covers the topic of 'filling in' or the frequent use of patterns, by the mind, to connect events which we do actually recall with other events we expect or anticipate fit into the expected experience. This 'filling in' is also used by our eyes and optic nerves to remove our blind spot orscotoma, and instead substitute what our mind expects to be present in the blind spot.

The book is written accessibly for the layperson, generally avoiding abstruse terminology and explaining common quirks of reasoning through the simple experiments that exploited them.

Watch Dr. Gilbert: This Emotional Life on PBS http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mR35bkD_D4o

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LTO_dZUvbJA
Well, too complicated, too much....Okay, try the following simple approach...Four simple sentences to improve your life...Do not miss the wonderful music at the end of this post...Enjoy!

零極限:創造健康、平靜與財富的夏威夷療法Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and Morehttp://www.books.com.tw/exep/prod/booksfile.php?item=0010429486
 Imagine wiping your mind’s slate clean and starting over without preconceived notions, so you can live in a world of daily wonder. Imagine if anything and everything were possible. In fact, everything is possible when you look at the world free of mental constraints. This book is a key that opens your life to a new universe of possibility and accomplishment--a universe with Zero Limits.

Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More


四句話,就能解決所有問題?讓心處於「零」的狀態,一切就會順利?

如果你用不受框限的眼光看世界,讓心智回到「零極限」的狀態,每一件事都是可能的。你能更自在、優雅地面對自己的人生,從而獲得財富、健康、平靜與快樂。

  讓我們:不只不抱怨,更要說「我愛你」!

零極限:創造健康、平靜與財富的夏威夷療法

 「我愛你」「對不起」「請原諒我」「謝謝你」這幾句話,包含了解決我們人類內外在衝突的所有資源……在讀這本書的字裡行間可以好好去體會它的深意,進而把它們落實在我們的生活中。一段時間之後,一定可以看到你的生命會有不一樣的改變!
——張德芬(靈性作家)

...這幾句話, 清洗內心的負面情緒, 從新清理自己, 也因為這些話, 更是在我感到難過與痛的時後, 適時拉回到當下.. 也改善了我的人際關係, 感受到來自四面八方友人與家人的愛與關懷. 現今當下的我已平靜許\多,感恩上天, 人事物, 一切的一切還是感恩..——

Emille

 

/ 台灣台北

 2010.01.08
閱讀這本書是個美妙的經驗,它給你非常簡單的工具,永久改變你看待周圍世界的眼光。極力推薦給任何追尋自我的人。
——Marge(美國讀者)

from http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ac5SGwRPv0o
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