I believe that the patients are in great pain… they might not want to be treated like this… they might want to have that last bit of destiny when they go… they might want to be PAIN-FREE when they go…they might want to suffer no more!! but somehow, the families always the ones that  cry and carry the most pain.  It’s very painful to watch our love ones get sick and eventually die. But eventually it’s easier for our love ones, they are FREE… they suffer no more… no more pain… no more painful treatments!!

Even though I’m not a Christian (went to church many years ago), but I do believe in faith and destiny. (I learned from my experiences)   I’m not saying that we should be passively accept our faith and destiny, instead, we should be active, hopeful, and eventually you will learn and gain a lot in your life.    

Hopefully, things I say would help you.. I’m just trying to help…

I understand that you truly wanted this baby, I also understand your sorrows..  but going against the nature wouldn’t  help you much…

Think of positive and good things, let it go, let sorrows go… you will feel better soon!  

At hospitals, patients’ families desperately want doctors to save their love ones’ lives, they request CPR, heart pumps, and all sort of resuscitation just to prolong their love/sick ones’lives.  But sometimes, the patients already gone, the bodies already gone cold… but the families still desperately forcing doctors to save their lives.  Is it for the patients’ own good, or for their families’ own good?? 

I’m not trying to scare you or to bring your mood down, but just to tell you that if it’s not meant to be yours, don’t force it, just let it be the way it is or let it go… .

I learned that if I forced things to happen, maybe I’d feel good when things go my way, but later on, I might regret it or things might not be as good as I once thought!

What I’m trying to say is, don’t try to change faith, there’s faith or destiny in everything.  Lets say, god has already map out our ways and destinies, we just need to follow his lead, step by step walk on the path that he created for us… we shall be fine… things shall be fine…

However, if we thought that, “NO, we gotta have our ways, things should go like this, we wanna go against the nature...,” things might not go as smooth as we once expected!

Hi... I'm sorry to hear about your baby... Hopefully, you  feel better now.

honestly, from medical stand point of view, if the baby has some sort of defects or because of the mom's physical condition, this kind of thing would happen.  Also, boy is weaker than girl.  It's harder for boys to survive than girls.  The 1st trimaster (first 3 months) is the most critical period, and the chance of male fetus death is greater than female fetus.  Also, genetically speaking,  male is also weaker than females.

I said this because even if you successfully had this baby grow  in your uterus, it might grow, but the chance that he or she would survive the entire 38-40weeks is questionable… also he might die after he is born…  ok lets say, everything is fine , but there’s also some possibility that he might carry some genetics diseases…

我不能安慰你什麼

但我知道

如果你繼續在傷痛中

愛你的孩子

他也會傷痛

他的心

因你的心而禁錮

放下他

他將因你的釋放而解脫

祝福你   我的朋友

願你    平安喜樂