蘇格蘭作家喬治．麥克唐納（George MacDonald）在他所著的一本寓言故事書（The Wise Woman）中，講述兩名女孩因自私自利而害人害己。直到一位滿有智慧的婦人讓她們經歷重重考驗，幫助她們再次變得「可愛」。

女孩們每次考驗都失敗，因而感到羞愧和無助，其中一個名叫蘿莎蒙的女孩，最終明白無法改變自己，就問那位智慧的婦人說：「妳能幫助我嗎？」婦人回答：「既然妳問我，也許我能。」在智慧婦人的幫助下（象徵著上帝的幫助），蘿莎蒙開始改變。接著，她問婦人能否原諒她過去所犯的過錯。婦人說：「若我不原諒妳，就不會費心管教妳，讓妳接受考驗。」

有時上帝會管教我們，明白背後的原因是很重要的。祂的管教不是處罰，而是慈父對孩子的關愛（希伯來書12章6節）。祂也希望我們能「在祂的聖潔上有份。⋯⋯結出平安的果子，就是義的果子」（10-11節，和合本修訂版）。自私帶來痛苦，但聖潔會使我們能像上帝那樣完全、喜樂與「可愛」。

蘿莎蒙問智慧的婦人，怎麼會喜歡像她這樣自私的女孩？婦人彎下腰親吻她，然後回答：「因為我看見妳將來會成為什麼樣的人。」上帝的管教也同樣帶著愛和期望，為要使我們恢復受造時美好的樣式。

In his parable The Wise Woman, George MacDonald tells the story of two girls, whose selfishness brings misery to all, including themselves, until a wise woman puts them through a series of tests to help them become “lovely” again.

After the girls fail each test and suffer shame and isolation, one of them, Rosamond, finally realizes she can’t change herself. “Couldn’t you help me?” she asks the wise woman. “Perhaps I could,” the woman replied, “now that you ask me.” And with the divine help symbolized by the wise woman, Rosamond begins to change. She then asks if the woman would forgive all the trouble she’s caused. “If I had not forgiven you,” the woman says, “I would never have taken the trouble to punish you.”

There are times when God disciplines us. It’s important to understand why. His correction isn’t driven by retribution but by a fatherly concern for our welfare (Hebrews 12:6). He also desires that we may “share in his holiness,” enjoying a harvest of “righteousness and peace” (vv. 10-11). Selfishness brings misery, but holiness makes us whole, joyful, and “lovely” like Him.

Rosamond asks the wise woman how she can love a selfish girl like her. Stooping to kiss her, the woman replies, “I saw what you were going to be.” God’s correction too comes with love and a desire to make us who we’re meant to be.