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From: pearl 
Date: Thu, Sep 7, 2017 at 7:12 AM
Subject: Life has many faces
To: ingrid


Life is the journey with many faces.

When I was young, I did not think too much about the future like decades later. I did not have many older generation in my family and my mother was the only one, who was only 22 years senior but she was one generation above.

All I could have cared was to be able to afford to live a better life. 

What is the better life? I did not have much idea, the only one wealthy family I knew was my aunties. 

Of course, those big bosses at work may be rich, but not really known to me. It may be the reason I was not familiar with and not interested in the luxury.

In Taiwan where I was born and grew up, I may not have been worried much about finding a husband when there may be a Mr Right around.

Having migrated to Australia, I was always employed without financial worries. But how about my life would be later on? The thought hit me from time to time, I eagered to have a family, a nest where I could belong to, be related to. I wished to have the offspring to carry on whatever the legacy I had. 

The legacy is not only physical and evident like the wealth but also the invisible and spiritual like as the mindset and the will towards the life.

I saw myself and my husband as the first generation in Australia. As the pioneer of a family, we have been through the kinds of hardship and insecurity. Whatever we did not do well due to the poor language skills and not good enough in the social skills and the limitation of the qualification......。

My husband has the mindset that money can buy everything. Unfortunately we do not have enough money to buy everything despite the fact that money can not buy everything.

For me, the legacy is to pass on whatever we have and our child will carry on to have better life.

No matter how little and how least the legacy we have, I believe it is still better than nothing. 

For our child, is it necessary for her to desert her parents legacy to repeat the route of the hardship, to feel miserable and insecure and to rely on the help from others?

It is very normal and well expected that the young birds have to fly high in the sky when their wings have grown strong. It is just the matter of the time.

I will deeply regret that as the parents we had not fed our young birds well and not trained and equipped them well when they flew away with the soft wings.

However, we can only pray for God to keep an eye on our child when she has to endure the pain which is beyond the strength of her not well grown wings. My child bird, our home is the nest where you can seek the support that you missed as long as there is still something available. 

One day this nest will be empty and may long for your input to enforce the structure before it falls apart.

Eventually you will be the boss, the head of this nest. Please be reminded to do regular maintenance instead of having to do the restoration  in the end and it would be harder.

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