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Ctrl : Control myself to a Positive "Attitude" mindset, not Emotion
its all about "Attitude"
Alt: Alter to "solution", a positive
Del: Delete negative
ignore him/her, they dont worth anyspace in your mind
they look down you not because of you but for them
14 reasons why strong people don’t give their energy to toxic people
1. Toxicity Holds Them Back
Someone is toxic if they don’t help you grow or hold you back. You don’t need and shouldn’t want these people interfering with your life. Sometimes you’ll think you can ignore their negativity, but it’ll affect you even when your guard is up.
2. They Know They Don’t Need Toxic People
You don’t have to surround yourself with many people to live your best life. Instead, choosing a select few people who contribute to your life in meaningful ways is the best way to go. It provides you with the opportunity for connection and growth.
3. They Know They Won’t Live Up to Their Potential
When surrounded by toxicity, these people know they can’t live up to their full potential. You’re tough, too, and you deserve nothing but the best from the people in your life.
4. They Make You Feel Lousy
At the very least, stop letting toxic people ask you for favors, and don’t go out of your way to see them. They will only steal your energy and make you feel lousy. You might feel bad at first, but once you notice the improvement in your life, you’ll realize it was well worth it.
5. They Don’t Feel Sorry for Themselves
When people mistreat a firm person, they don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves. They count their losses and move on, not giving the person another chance to hurt them. These people take responsibility for their life and acknowledge that they can choose to who to give their energy.
6. They Choose Their Attitude
Spending time with negative people makes it easy to take on their attitude. You’ll start to think in pessimistic or gloomy ways, but you don’t have to. Strong people know they can choose their attitude even when toxic people threaten their well-being.
Rather than letting them ruin your well-being, decide to stay motivated. When you make this decision, it’s easier to change the areas of your life that disrupt your positive attitude. It gives a negative person too much control over you if you let them dictate your mood or mindset.
7. Strong People Aren’t Afraid to Spend Time Alone
Strong people aren’t afraid to spend time alone. They’d rather have silence than spend their time with toxic people. Their thoughts don’t scare them, so they either embrace the silence or spend that time being productive
8. They Don’t Feel Obligated
These people don’t feel obligated to keep people in their life. They know who is bad for them and willingly let go of that relationship. Guilt trips don’t work with them because they know what decision to make to improve their life.
9. They Behave Productively
Firm people know that toxic people bring out the worst in them. They don’t give them their energy because they prefer to behave productively. When they want to do what’s best for their life, they must focus on beneficial aspects and people.
10. Strong People Stay in Control
It’s not worth giving in to toxic people because it takes away your power. Strong people don’t give their energy because they know it’ll cause them to lose control. They take responsibility and ownership of their life rather than placing blame on others.
11. They Surround Themselves with Positive Energy Instead of Toxic People
When someone knows what they want in their life, they surround themselves with it. Surrounding yourself with positive people helps eliminate any toxicity. When you give your energy to good people, it helps you prevent giving it to anyone else.
12. They Know Their Time is Worth More
Toxic people can zap all of your energy. It’s not worth giving in when you know you’ll receive nothing. Don’t waste a minute worrying about encounters with the person because no matter what happens, it’s not worth the lost time.
If a strong person starts thinking about a toxic person, they find ways to shift their thinking. They know that giving the negative person attention will only worsen the situation.
13. They Won’t Spend Their Time Dwelling on the Past
Toxic people often spend their time dwelling on the past. People who recognize their inner strength refuse to do the same. They don’t want to waste their energy rehashing the past when they could be looking forward.
Those with inner strength know they must acknowledge and learn from their past. However, these people don’t want it to affect who they are now. When they spend time with negative people, the past seems to resurface, so they try to avoid it whenever possible.
14. Strong People Don’t Mind Change
Some people dread life changes, but those with inner strength don’t. They welcome change because they know it can improve their life and well-being. There’s no reason for them to give their energy to negative people when they aren’t afraid to make a life change.
How to Identify a Toxic Person
If you’re ready to take control of your life and stop giving your energy to toxic people, you must identify them. There are red flags to watch for that will help you identify the negative influences in your life.
Toxic People Talk Badly About Others
If someone is comfortable talking badly about others, they’re likely toxic. There’s a good chance they’re talking about you when you’re not around.
They Don’t Follow Through
Pay attention to what someone says they’ll do. If the person rarely follows through on what they say, it’s a good chance they’re toxic.
Toxic People Are Inconsistent
While it’s common for people to have good times and bad, a toxic person is constantly inconsistent. They will behave erratically and never follow through on commitments. You won’t know what to expect from them because they rarely do what they say they will.
They Always Seek Attention
When someone in your life always needs something from you, it’s a sign of seeking attention. They’ll always want you to drop your actions to offer emotional support. However, they won’t often return the favor and seem to disappear when you’re in need.
They seek attention by only showcasing their positive aspects. You’ll notice that they only think with self-interest, never caring how it’ll affect others.
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