Dealing with people turns out to be a tough job, especially someone who makes no sense. Unfortunately, communicating with people has become one of my daily routines, the main part of my job; offering suggestions to the managers of schools, playing the role of a message-relayer between teachers and managers, and making presentations, etc. I can't understand why there are still countless misunderstandings between people, even they're speaking "the same" language, and it makes me wonder if we always listen with our "ears" instead of our "hearts". Do we ever check our own dictionary to find out which words should never be used or shouldn't be used in some particular

situations?

Of course, there are so many ways of expressing ourselves, as various as Chinese dishes. The choice is up to you. Be it a bowl of salad, a bowl of rice or a steak, you are master of your own “verbal recipe!” The way you communicate is entirely up to you.

On  the other hand, some things are anything but personal. Some carelessly chosen words could have fatal consequences, like a knife, stabbed into the heart, suddenly, coldly, directly. 

The sad irony is we are often unaware that we could be killers by doing such a thing. Ouch! A recipe for disaster! Maybe saying something is always easier than thinking. People need brains to think, but how many of us got a real working "brain" to think of it. If we think it before saying it, then

we may avoid harmful results; if we talk in a more polite way, then we would be respected; if we use more positive words to encourage people around us, then it would make this world more desirable.

Languages are not only useful for communicating, but aid understanding. Don't use derogatory words to look down on someone, or pass blame. This will only expose your weaknesses. And if you don't know how to express your feelings with more appropriate language, start racking your brain… if you have one!

Still at loss for words? Just keep in mind "Silence is golden."