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| 2011/10/20 08:03:26瀏覽37｜回應0｜推薦0 |
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Polygamy can be a dirty word for most people. However, you are taught to love both of your parents, all of your siblings, all of your children, etc, but why only one wife? You can make indefinite money; acquire unlimited assets, no restriction for creations, etc, but only one spouse. Basically, monogamy is saying even if you are smart like Einstein, rich like a billionaire, you are no different than a homeless who can only have one. I think that is wrong. I think one should choose x number of spouses. X can be 1, or can be whatever. You should be the one to decide how many is enough, not government. By the way, it applies to women too. If a woman is capable to manage multiple men, by no mean, go for it.
The challenges are: jealousy, favoritism, and fairness. With the proper education, I do believe we can fix jealousy. Just like you will teach your kids to share toys, and to be friend with multiple people. I also think love can fix favoritism. So, the most difficult is fairness. Can we stop someone so powerful (or talented) to have hundreds of spouses, like the old emperors? Well, we can't. Just like we can't stop anyone to live with multiple girls. However, the nature will stop them since just like food; you will stop eating when you are full. |
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| 2011/10/20 10:22:20瀏覽60｜回應1｜推薦0 |
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| I was wondering, what is wrong there is another person loves you and you also love that person, even if you are married? What is wrong with your kids having two mothers and two fathers? What is wrong with your kid introducing his/her family like, I have a loving father, a loving mother, and a loving “aunt” who is my father’s girl friend (or a loving “uncle” who is my mother’s lover) |
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If the woman you love is your father's wife, would you do the same? If the woman you love is your son's wife, would you do the same? If the woman you love is your son-in-law's wife, would you do the same? If the woman you love is your brother's wife, would you do the same? If the woman you love is your brother-in-lwa's wife, would you do the same? We are taught not to do it. What if the woman you love is your best friend's wife, would you do the same? How would your dearest friend feel? Reverse roles, if your best friend does that to you, he loves your father's wife, how would you feel? If your best friend loves your wife, how would you feel? If your best friend loves your daughter who is married, how would you feel? If your best friend loves your son who is married, how would you feel? If your best friend loves the woman you have the affair with, how would you feel? If your best friend (single) loves the woman you have the affair with (single), and you are married, how would you feel? Your best friend being single and the woman you have the affair with is also single. Their relationship is even legitimate than your extra marital relationship. How would you feel?
What is the boundary in all above situations? Do you set the boundary at your will? Then what is the basis?
Your problem is deeper than marriage or love. Do self-exam, self searching help to find the real cause(s) of the problems. All the things happened in life are the symptoms, not the root. If you don't fix the root, you always have problems with your life, no matter you are single, married, divorced, having affair or not. True happiness is hard to come by with an unhealthy you. Good Luck!
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| mynameisnobody(mynameisnobody) 於 2011-10-26 09:38 回覆： |
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"If the woman you love is your father's wife" .... Hmmm, that would be my mom. "If the woman you love is your son-in-law's wife" .... Hmmm, that woman would be my daughter :) You sound mad. So, please be calm first.
The purpose of this article is to think out loud about the definition of love. Why can you love just one, but not two or more? Why can you only be loved by one, not two or more?
I am blessed and I have a good life. So, it is not much about me. Nice try :)
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2011/10/21 08:09:03瀏覽69｜回應3｜推薦0
Why people divorce, or better, how can we stop people divorcing?
The prerequisite of divorcing is that people are married in the first place. So, what is marriage? In the early generations, marriage = LAW. The law is defined by the parents. In bible, marriage = LAW + love. The law is defined by God. For the non-Christian or non religious people, marriage = LOVE + law. The law is defined by the government.
My focus is not much for the early generations. My focus is to seek the solution so people won’t divorce. Not to get married is one, but living together for a (long) period of time is like a marriage.
We all know anything defined by the government can’t be perfect. The marriage laws are the reason for people getting divorces. Due to the law, we are trained to follow the one man one woman formula. The education, the media, and the society, are based upon the one-to-one relationship. The parents will tell you to love only one person. The media create many love stories based upon one couple. The society will crucify you if you don’t follow it. We are brain washed to think the only way or the best way for people to live together is one mate only. However, I think differently.
I think people should be together as long as they love each other. We should have the freedom to decide how many mates to have. You may choose one-to-one, or you may choose one-to-many. Your spouse(s) also have the freedom of choosing one-to-one or one-to-many.
Think about this, if you are born in a family with two fathers and two mothers, you are more likely to follow the same to have multiple mates. The education can teach us to live with multiple people. It shouldn’t be too difficult since we are taught to love all of your siblings, to love multiple friends, to share loves, etc. Why not expand into marriage? The challenges could be the jealousy, the favoritism, the ego, the tax, the fairness, etc. I would let lawyers/politicians figure out how to tax the polygamists. With proper educations, we should be able to control the ego and the unfairness parts. With love, I do believe it will resolve the issues of jealousy and favoritism.
Now, you should ask, how could 1-to-many work, when today’s one-to-one relationships are in so much trouble?
The main causes of divorce are: 1. affair, and 2. unhappiness. I do believe my solution can solve both issues. Simply put, with openness, affair won’t be necessary. With competitiveness, it will make your mate a better person. Yes, I have proof.
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一夫多妻的先決條件你有嗎?
這是挺現實及悲哀的問題，似乎一夫多妻的成功率都是發生在有錢人的身上，或者你得先改造這個世界觀，在你沒有改造成功以前，恐怕有難度，因為單單是你太太那一關你就過不了了。
http://tw.myblog.yahoo.com/jkt921/article?mid=9930&prev=-2&next=-2&page=1&sc=1#yartcmt
分享這篇文章，也或許你可以google一下去找尋找你的答案，然後用你有限的智慧去判斷它的可行性，結果如何，恐怕非你一己之力可以解決，因為人畢竟不是動物，只要滿足牠的獸性那麼簡單而以。
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| mynameisnobody(mynameisnobody) 於 2011-10-26 08:56 回覆： |
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Change isn't easy, especially we are talking about changing people minds, changing laws, changing cultures.
Ha, another one using my last name. I call you my second wife :)
It is okay if my wife doesn't join me. Think about it, that isn't a bad deal since I can sure that she won't go out to date. Otherwise, she would've adapted my theory. A win win for me :) Of course, all bets are off if she divorce me. However, so far it isn't an option. So, your points?
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你的思考模式很另類
如果你認為一夫多妻，一妻多夫 或 多夫多妻 可以解決人類的婚姻問題
那麼 go ahead 身體力行之後，回來證明這對大多數的人是可行的，再來大方闡揚你的論述。
但不要為了自己想要一夫多妻，才拼命的去找別人可以認同你的理由，且請你得記住在你結婚前最好確認你的另一半，還有你婚外情的對象也能認同你的想法，否則這對你的另一半是非常不公平的！
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| mynameisnobody(mynameisnobody) 於 2011-10-26 08:43 回覆： |
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Since you are using my last name, I will call you my first wife :) Also, you don't sound too against my theory, only doubts, just like in any revolutions. I am inviting you to join me.
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| mynameisnobody(mynameisnobody) 於 2011-10-26 09:02 回覆： |
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| No doubts there are many sad stories since people don't know there are other options. People don't know the issues of being one to one, not to say the solutions. Also, most polygamists won't come out. They know it is too risky. So, your points? |
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