會養出這種不肖子

不知為啥讓我聯想到阿扁，集台灣人榮辱於一身的當選

卻在八年後鋃鐺入獄至今不得交保

就是寵溺政治人物最壞的示範

總有人幫他找藉口找台階，如同他寵溺他老婆一般

如此，不過八年卻養成大患

手刃至親這種新聞少了嗎?踢死老父，打死老目

人與人之間真誠平常心交往就好

孩子不能太寵，政治人物，部屬長官也不是一樣咩

歐巴桑提的母親打兒子巴掌的事，我有些感想。三十四歲時的我，去年夏天因為一件不算很大的事，親子溝通不良，我講的話不夠妥而讓我母親誤以為我態度不佳，竟給賞了一巴掌。不過，被賞了巴掌的同時，除了有感嘆自己年過三十竟被賞巴掌，卻同時感覺到媽媽的手勁竟然變小力，突然發現媽媽年老了，竟有點擔心的感覺...

不是要說自己做得多適當或哪裡多好(這麼大還被賞巴掌可見我溝通得也沒多好)，但覺得要耐得住性子，尤其對於自己的父母的管教，特別需要如此，尤其勿使用暴力或過當的言語。畢竟，子女日漸茁壯，父母卻是在拉拔養育子女的歲月中日漸蒼老衰弱。

當然，每個家庭，每個人的親子關係或相處情形不盡相同，可能也有父母太誇張，讓子女在某種情形下產生變態式的反撲。但是，還是要控制一下為是。

歐巴桑提的，很有道理。說教固然可能不討喜，但仍不能抹殺其價值。不妨耐著性子參考其中提供的建議，或盡量以適當態度看待。孔子也說過，三十而立。三十歲的人，不一定要多有顯赫的立業，但是除了特殊例外，人生黃金歲月，絕對包含三十歲。如何把握黃金時期，打下成功人生的根基或梁柱，值得思考。

Besides, in the traditional Taiwanese society, children who are older than 18 years old live with their parents and form a close relationship in harmony. They help their parents with the housework as they had been taught to in their childhood. They had been taught to take care of their family without charging any money. I think there is nothing wrong with the traditional culture in this aspect--the traditional way children live with their parents. But there is really something wrong with the way some parents teach their children, which may bring about "problem children" or "problem adult." 

our tradition in the US, a kid over 18 still living with parents usually

1. the kid is going to college near home, staying with parents is to save money.

2. the kid is looking for a job, need a place to stay while doing job searching.

3. any normal kid as long as having a job won't stay with parents, those live with parents usually are to help parents by paying them rent.

I saw many Taiwanese parents allow kids to stay with them long term without asking for rent and food cost, this kind of free-ride hurt both parents and kids.

The Chinese/Taiwanese claimed to have more than 5000 years history but they obviously do know what they are doing.

I guess history alone means squat.