Dear uncle,

Thanks for asking me to call you. The two subjects were both
interesting.

The first topic, Ethan was the only child who screamed in front of
you among that more than tens boys at similar age during end of last
year to now, April of this year. Tina and I really feel that Ethan does
require more attention, and is also more needy, compared to Amelia.
Actually, we find that he knows and cares a lot of things others at
his age do not. There is no explanation on why his and Amelia's
behaviors are so different from the education point of view,
since we have the same principle, same rules around the house.
Ethan does feel more comfortable with us, compared to having guests
around. Most of time, he is pretty normal, at least in my point of
view. Each person is unique, in their own way. I can only worry
about what I am able to work on. Over all, he is an excellent child,
being doing many good things these years. We are very pround of
how he manages himself at school, how he makes progress in playing
sports, how he takes care of Amelia. My attitude is that I will not
over analyze it.

The second subjects was even more interesting. Regarding the gift in
Lynn's wedding, I really can not recall what happen
at that time. The only thing I could remember was that we did it in
a hurry, maybe pricy gifts were no longer available in the bridal
registry. So many things happen during such short period of time. It
is hard for me to answer why our gift amount is the least among all
the guests.

Over all, I am more sloppy, regarding handling all the personal
relationship, especially when it comes to money. I do not agree what
big auntie said since I have not talked to her for years. And, I can
not fake myself if certain things go beyond my personal standard.

General speaking, I am not good at discussing a single event, especially
when it comes down to family.

It has almost been four years since we had Ethan. We came through
some highs and lows, and I firmly believe there will be more, and in
bigger scale. It just takes time to learn how to be a good parent.
For Ethan, he is in a tough situation, especially he spends so much
time at school at such young age. He handles himself pretty well.
Maybe you ran into some of his worst moments, or we just have
different standards.

Regarding money, I can only say that I haven't made any serious
money until I moved to Bay Area. I can not accept someone made
comment on my behavior when I was 10 years old, or anything like
that. How could I be generous when I was using my parents' money?
I am practical, and doing whatever I can. And, I do not take
adantage of others, money wise. That, I am really pround of.

At the end, I really don't feel it is fair to say that I am doing better
compare to others, brothers, cousins. My mom always remind me to
"help/paying more attention to/be more sensitive to" Sxxxx
financial situation. However, I believe his salary is higher than mine.
I can not think more about whether his family is single income or
double income since our expense is much higher because we both
work. I believe people choose our own live style. We will become who
we educate ourselves to be. Before the end of the line, no one
should really make judgement to others.

I learn a lot from my management training: Being criticize but not
judgemental. It is silly try to put tag on others. If there is a problem,
we should try to work it out, especially among family. Trash talk, back
stabbing are just worthless. Yes, I am upset when I put down these
comments. On top of all, I feel it is silly trying to be the perfect person
in everyone's mind.