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| 破解10大性愛神話 關於性，我們都聽過不少古老的神話，有些是真的，但假的占了大半，例如「一滴精，十滴血」就是毫無醫學根據的神話，這回我們找了生育學專家及行為學者幫我們一一解密，從此不必再人云亦云。 ★神話1 "You can avoid pregnancy by jumping up and down after sex." 做愛之後，女性只要不斷跳動，就可以避免懷孕。 FALSE: Once sperm gets inside you, says Kolb, it spreads and lubricates the entire area. “You can’t bounce it out of you. In fact, if your partner sees you bouncing around like that, it might just excite him more," he says. 解密：大錯特錯，一旦精子進入妳體內，就會立即遍布陰道和子宮壁。生育學專家寇爾布說，「此時妳就算去高空彈跳，都無法把精子排得一隻不剩」。倒是妳的男人看妳又蹦又跳的模樣，他可能又要興奮了。 ★神話2 "Men think about sex every seven seconds." 男人滿腦子都是性，平均每七秒就會想到一次。 (Probably) FALSE: “Men do think about sex a lot, but so do women," says Wyatt. "Most won’t admit it because it doesn’t seem ladylike." But as for the frequency of male thoughts about sex? “That wouldn’t give you time to think about anything else. Whoever that man is, he needs to get a job and make some money.” 解密：錯！男人的確常會想到性，但其實女人也不遑多讓。行為學者瓦特說，但多數女人不會承認自己性致勃勃，因為這實在有損女性矜持、淑女的形象。至於男人想到性的頻率究竟如何？當男人精蟲衝腦時，腦筋裡的確裝不下其他事，所以有人說男人是「下面硬時心腸就軟，下面軟時心腸就硬」。男人是那種工作時努力賺錢，但一閒下來就會想入非非的人。 ★神話3 "A cold shower can douse libido." 一場冷水淋浴可以澆熄欲火。 TRUE: “If you are on trajectory to being aroused, you are getting warm, and your heart is pumping more,” says Wyatt. “When you take a cold shower you slow the process down. If you don’t want to be aroused, it's the right thing to do!” 解密：正確。如果你的性欲被撩起，此時你會渾身發熱，心跳也會加速。瓦特說，此時你如果想澆熄胸中燃起的熊熊欲火，沖個冷水澡可以讓自己身體和欲望降溫。 ★神話4 "You can’t get pregnant during that time of the month." 在安全期時做愛不會懷孕。 FALSE: If your menstrual cycle is normal, it’s highly unlikely you’ll get pregnant during your period. But sometimes your period is not your period — it’s intermenstrual spotting, and you may well be ovulating at the same time, says Dr. Kolb. 解密：錯。如果妳的月經周期都很正常，安全期時做愛的確不會懷孕，問題是多數人的經期並不像妳我以為的那麼分秒不差。有些人自認處於安全期時，卻剛好在排卵，結果安全期變成危險期。 ★神話5 "If you have sexual thoughts about someone of the same gender, you’re bisexual." 如果你曾經對某個同性有過性幻想，你可能是同性戀。 FALSE: "[Being] aroused by thinking about somebody of your own sex does not necessarily mean that’s your sexual orientation,” says Wyatt. “That’s fantasy. That’s arousal. That’s what’s on TV. And those things can be separate from sexual orientation." 解密：錯。會對某些同性產生性幻想，並不表示自己就是同性戀或雙性戀。人是奇妙的動物，偶爾也會幻想同性的裸體，但這並不表示幻想的人就具有同性戀的傾向。不少女人也會把林志玲當成性感偶像，喜歡劉德華的男人也不少，但他們不一定就是同性戀。 ★神話6 "If your husband watches porn that means he’s not satisfied with you." 如果妳的老公會偷偷看Ａ片，顯示妳無法滿足他的需要。 (Mostly) FALSE: “Your husband is trying to get aroused but maybe he wants to transfer that arousal to you,” says Wyatt. “Maybe it signals you need to work harder at arousing your partner. In any case, this begs a conversation with your partner!” 解密：錯。老公看Ａ片，有時只是想藉此挑起自己的欲望，然後再把這股欲望轉移到妳身上。行為學者瓦特說，「老公看Ａ片其實是一個訊號，就是妳應該多花點心思去挑起老公的欲望。或許老公正想透過看Ａ片的動作引起妳的注意，希望妳多去關心他的需求。」 ★神話7 "Once you have a baby, your sex life is over." 一旦妳有了寶寶，妳的性生活也就謝謝收看了。 TRUE AND FALSE: “There’s no question that having a vaginal birth will change you down there,” says Kolb. “But sex is much more than physical stimulation. It’s also about intimacy and physical stimulation.” Wyatt suggests this solution: “The vagina is a muscle, so you've got to work it out. Do your Kegels, ladies! Thirty at every stoplight!" 解密：也許對，也許不對。自然分娩會造成陰道鬆弛，影響老公對性生活的滿意度，這是有可能的。但性不只局限在肉欲這麼膚淺的層面，它還包括了情感的交流及肢體的親密接觸，即所謂的靈肉合一。陰道只是肌肉組織，行為學專家瓦特建議，可以透過凱格爾運動強化陰道收縮力，生完孩子一樣可以享受美好的性生活。 ★神話8 "Masturbating too much can make you go blind." 男人太常手淫可能導致失明。 FALSE: “And it doesn’t cause hair to grow on your palms either!” says Kolb. “The only way masturbating can cause vision problems if you are also staring at the computer watching porn all the time.” 解密：錯。這是滑稽的說法，手淫絕不會導致失明，倒是不少人喜歡在手淫時盯著電腦螢幕上的美女，如果兩眼直視電腦螢幕太久，很容易導致近視度數暴增。 ★神話9 "Celibacy can make you crazy!" 長期單身會讓你想發瘋。 (Kind of) TRUE: “Many people who are celibate in their twenties and thirties have turned off their sexual cues so they don’t know what stimulates them,” says Wyatt. “They may be so inhibited and shut down that they become depressed. Sex is a natural drive — like a need for water or air. Everyone needs to express themselves sexually.” 解密：正確。不少人因為長期單身，從20、30歲就過著無性生活，由於長期壓抑或無處紓解，這些人日後甚至不知該如何解放自己的欲望，他們很容易感到鬱悶和低潮，顯得鬱鬱寡歡，或是常會亂發脾氣。性欲是上天賦與人類的自然驅力，就像我們口渴時會想喝水、游泳時想把頭露出水面呼吸一樣，每個人都該適當地滿足性需求。 ★神話10 "You can’t catch an STD from oral sex." 口交不會傳染性病。 FALSE: “Oral sex doesn’t protect you from the transmission of diseases,” says Kolb, who adds that he once had a lesbian client who caught gonorrhea from her female partner, who in turn had caught it when she engaged in oral sex with a man (yes, cheating!). 解密：錯。口交也是性行為的一種，它也有黏膜接觸及體液的交換，還是會傳染性病。生育學家寇爾布舉例，安娜是一名雙性戀女子，女友把淋病傳染給她，安娜擔心把淋病傳染給別人，在男友求歡時，她只肯和男友口交，結果男友還是中鏢，可見口交並不保險。 （世界新聞網摘自美國微軟新聞網） |
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