當雙方為了各自的真理而狡辯、而僵持、而不肯妥協讓步的時候， 劍拔弩張的態勢既已形成， 愛情將因各自對真理的追求而受傷。                                                                                                                   
                                                                                                                                                    
連接幾天的冷戰，讓她明顯地感受愛情已經走到瀕臨分手的地步。                                                                                         
                                                                                                                                                    
在她眼中，他變得陌生。回顧過去，交往這麼多年，不論雙方爭吵到什麼局面，從來沒有看見他表現得這麼冷酷。他緊閉的嘴角，始終咬著憤怒的情緒。             
                                                                                                                                                    
當她放下身段，頻頻追問：「有什麼不滿就說啊？」時，他還是不肯鬆口。她主動提及：「難道就為了那件雞毛蒜皮的事，你就氣成這樣？」                       
                                                                                                                                                    
她口中的那件「雞毛蒜皮的事」，是指幾天前的一次約會，他睡過了頭，讓她在下雨的夜街等了一個多小時，錯過了電影放映時間。他趕來時，她當街對他咆哮，甚至連「你是豬啊！睡到連手機響了幾十次都聽不見嗎？」這些難聽的話都說出口。                                                                               
                                                                                                                                                    
面對她的責難，他始終默默承受。知道她在氣頭上，他沒有解釋睡過頭的原因。前晚熬夜工作，隔天照常上班。為了陪她看電影，下班後回去沖了熱水澡，看時間還早，躺在沙發上看電視，居然睡著了，手機放在臥室，響了幾次，他沒有聽到。醒來時，自己嚇出一身冷汗，騎機車趕到約會地點，只見她氣呼呼的一張劈頭痛罵的嘴臉。 
                                                                                                                                                    
‧ 咄咄逼人的態度，常令對方厭煩得無力招架，寧願棄甲投降                                                                                             
                                                                                                                                                    
她的氣，來得快、去得也快。電影沒看成，兩個人牽手逛街，喝杯咖啡，心平氣和。她以為：一場小小的爭執，就這樣過去了。沒想到，不滿的情緒，在他心中累積，新愁加舊恨，令他覺得委屈，但卻又無處可伸冤。                                                                                                         
                                                                                                                                                    
「到底什麼事，讓你這麼不開心，說嘛！」她試圖盡一切努力，挽回這段感情，「難道，你要一直跟我冷戰下去。還是，你已經決定……」她實在不願讓「分手」兩個字被說出口。                                                                                                                                           
                                                                                                                                                    
伸手不打笑臉人，她的誠意終於溶解他的冰冷。他終於願意開口溝通了：「那天，我並不是故意遲到。」他將事情的來龍去脈說了一遍。                           
                                                                                                                                                    
聽完他的說辭，她理解之後可以諒解。但仍希望藉此給對方機會教育，她以乘勝追擊的語氣說：「不管怎麼樣，讓一個女孩子等那麼久，就是你不對。下次不可以再這樣了，你應該向我道歉。」                                                                                                                             
                                                                                                                                                    
他聽完她的指教，為之氣結，幾乎對彼此的溝通感到絕望。渙散的眼光投向遠方，他無力地說：「為什麼？我總是敗訴者！」                                     
                                                                                                                                                    
「敗訴者！」這三個字如一把利箭，從他的口中射出，直接標的她愛情盲點的紅色圓心。原來，她的咄咄逼人，早已令他厭煩得無力招架，寧願棄甲投降。           
                                                                                                                                                    
「我沒有要跟你爭辯出誰輸誰贏啊？」說得理直氣壯的她，不免感到一陣心虛。如果，自己真的沒有爭強好勝的意味，何苦老是要對方認錯道歉？                   
                                                                                                                                                    
‧ 對於愛情的真理，體諒遠比認同來得重要                                                                                                             
                                                                                                                                                    
真理，愈說愈明。世間的真理，果真愈說愈明嗎？抑或，愛情的真理，無法愈說愈明。                                                                       
                                                                                                                                                    
當雙方為了各自的真理而狡辯、而僵持、而不肯妥協讓步的時候，劍拔弩張的態勢既已形成，愛情將因各自對真理的追求而受傷。                                 
                                                                                                                                                    
對於愛情的真理，體諒遠比認同來得重要。更何況，愛情的真理，只能靠時間慢慢檢驗。當兩個人攜手偕老，走過歲月的滄桑以後，才會漸漸明瞭：愛情，沒有真正的誰 對誰錯。只有「我還愛著你，你依然戀我如昔！」這件事永遠可以是對的，其他的是是非非，一點都不重要。                                                   
                                                                                                                                                    
畢竟，相愛不是打官司。爭吵之後，雙方要的是和解，不是判刑。                                                                                         
                                                                                                                                                    
兩個人之間的愛情，不必審判。尤其，找一堆親友來當「陪審團」更是不智之舉。「勝訴者」與「敗訴者」，都不會贏到什麼，反而只會失去愛情。                 
                                                                                                                                                    
在意見衝突的當下，只要以誠意及耐心溝通，就算其中一方真的有錯，心裡偷偷抱著「知過能改，善莫大焉！」的期待就好，不用給他判刑定讞，更不要傷了他的自尊心！                                                                                                                                               
                                                                                                                                                    
請記得：犯錯的人，也有尊嚴。否則，勝訴者贏了面子、輸了裡子，敗訴的人，上訴不成、心有不甘，雙方都是輸家。                                           
                                                                                                                                                    
 （本文選錄自吳若權最新散文作品《你就是我的100分》）                                                                                                
                                                                                                                                                    
 幸福思考；聰明行動--                                                                                                                               
 愛情，沒有真正的誰對誰錯；兩個人之間的愛情，不必審判。                                                                                             
 尤其，找一堆親友來當「陪審團」更是不智之舉。                                                                                                       
 即使是犯錯的人，也有他要的尊嚴。顧全彼此立場，才能雙贏。