我生命中最重要的領悟是，一個人要活得有力量，必須始終相信：上帝在你身上的安排，都是最好的。

當一條路走到盡頭，當你覺得再也走不下去、再也無法承受時，或許正是該鼓起勇氣做出改變的時候。改變，往往伴隨著不確定與風險，但若心中深信上帝有祂獨特的計畫，相信「萬事都互相效力，叫愛神的人得益處」（羅馬書8章27節），那麼你就會有力量踏出那一步，勇敢迎向未知。

當你面對改變時，其實會感到一種隱隱的興奮。那感覺，就像走進一個未知的房間——你不知道裡面有什麼，也許有驚喜，也許什麼都沒有。就像復活節找彩蛋，有時候彩蛋裡是巧克力、有時候是小玩具，也可能什麼都沒有，甚至在你找到之前，早已被別人拿走了。然而，真正讓人期待與快樂的，其實是「尋找的過程」。那份期待與好奇，本身就是生命中極為珍貴的經驗。

當人生走過大半，你會慢慢明白：過程，往往比結果更重要。當你真的拿到彩蛋時，那份興奮或許只持續幾分鐘；但在尋找的過程中，那種期待與投入，反而更深刻、更長久。

如果面對未知的未來時，心中沒有一點正面的期待，人就容易失去前行的勇氣。因為你不知道未來是什麼，也不敢往前走。這時候，那句「萬事都互相效力，叫愛神的人得益處」，不只是經文，更是一種支撐生命的力量。當然，人也可以從書本、從勵志的話語中獲得信心，例如「有志者事竟成」或「天公疼好人」。但對我而言，相信有一位神在為我安排最好的道路，這樣的信念，比任何一句話都來得更深、更有力量。

回顧我的一生，充滿了未知，但我似乎總能從容面對。

1980年，我來到美國。那時候身上只有五百美元。學校就給我每個月三百美元的研究助理（RA）獎學金，學費也因為擔任研究助理而被減免。基本上，我就是靠著那三百美元開始了在美國的生活。

更重要的是，我一到美國就加入了教會團契。在那裡認識的弟兄姊妹，讓我感受到家的溫暖。曾經有一位姊妹對我說：「你看起來一點都不像剛來美國的人，好像已經在這裡生活很久了。」對我而言，那份陌生感似乎很快就消失了。即使不久後進入冰天雪地的冬天，我們常常晚上上完課，踩著積雪走回家，沒有車，只能步行，但我心中卻沒有太多害怕。

人生的第二個重大轉變，是離婚之後。當我下定決心走出那段關係時，前方充滿未知，但我依然相信，上帝會為我預備最好的安排。在那段低潮的日子裡，我把重心放在神學院的學業，也養成運動的習慣，下班後去健身房，讓自己保持健康與活力。同時，我也開始學習處理生活中的各種事情：車險、財務規劃、與理財顧問討論，甚至主動打電話詢問不同的保險方案。這些過程讓我發現，學習其實充滿樂趣，也讓我變得更有能力。

過去許多事情我不需要操心，但現在我必須自己面對、自己決定。也正因如此，我體會到一種前所未有的獨立與自由——我可以為自己做決定，不需要依附他人，也不必被左右。這樣的掌控感，反而讓我對生活更有安全感。

第三個轉變，是我結束了一段多年的關係。其實在那段關係中，我曾多次想過分手，因為心裡總覺得彼此並不真正適合。但同時，又習慣了有人可以分享生活、一起旅行，享受陪伴的樂趣。直到最後，我仍然選擇放手。那一刻，我也會懷疑，未來是否還會遇到更合適的人。但我依然相信，上帝自有祂美好的安排。因此，我願意跨出這一步，給自己一個新的機會。

回頭看這一切，我最大的領悟是：不要害怕改變。用一種樂觀而進取的心，去面對人生的不確定；同時，持守一份堅定的信仰，相信上帝所給的一切，都是最好的。

當你擁有這樣的信念，就不再畏懼未知的道路，也會有勇氣，一步一步走下去。

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What are the most important lessons you’ve learned in life？

The most important lesson I have learned in life is to always trust that what God has arranged for me is the best.

When you reach a point where you feel you can no longer go on—when a path seems impossible to continue—that may be the moment when you need the courage to change direction. Change often comes with uncertainty and risk. But if you truly believe that God has a unique plan for you, and hold on to the promise that :“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. (Bible Romans 8:28) , then you will find the strength to take that step and face the unknown.

In fact, when you begin to embrace change, you may even feel a quiet sense of excitement. It is like walking into an unknown room—you do not know what awaits you. There may be surprises, or there may be nothing at all. It is like searching for Easter eggs: sometimes you find chocolate, sometimes a small toy, and sometimes nothing—perhaps others have already taken them. Yet what truly fills you with anticipation and joy is not the egg itself, but the process of searching. That sense of expectation is, in itself, a precious part of life.

As you move through life, you gradually come to realize that the process is often more meaningful than the result. When you finally find the “egg,” the excitement may last only a few moments. But the anticipation and engagement along the way stay with you much longer.

If you face the unknown future without any sense of positive expectation, it becomes difficult to move forward. Fear takes over, because you do not know what lies ahead. At such times, the belief that “all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called” becomes more than just words—it becomes a source of strength. Of course, people can also draw encouragement from books or sayings like “Where there is a will, there is a way.” But for me, believing that God is guiding my life toward what is best is far more powerful than any phrase.

Looking back, my life has been full of uncertainties, yet I have always found a way to move forward with a sense of calm.

In 1980, I came to the United States with only five hundred dollars in my pocket. For two years , my school paid me $300 monthly salary for working as a RA ( research assistant ) , and my tuition was also covered as a RA. That small beginning sustained me.

Even more importantly, I joined a church fellowship soon after I arrived. The brothers and sisters I met there gave me a sense of belonging. I remember one sister once said to me, “You don’t look like someone who just arrived in the U.S.—you seem like you’ve been here for a long time.” Somehow, I did not feel like a stranger. Even when winter came and the ground was covered in snow, I would walk home from evening classes without a car, yet I did not feel afraid.

The second major turning point in my life was my divorce. When I made the decision, I knew the future was uncertain. But I trusted that God would provide the best path for me. During that difficult time, I focused on my studies in seminary and made it a habit to go to the gym after work, keeping both my body and mind strong. I also began to take responsibility for many aspects of life—car insurance, financial planning, speaking with advisors, and asking questions when I did not know the answers. Through this process, I discovered that learning could be joyful, and I became more capable and confident.

In the past, I did not have to handle many of these things. Now I had to do them myself. Yet in doing so, I experienced a new kind of independence and freedom. I could make my own decisions without needing to rely on anyone else. This sense of control gave me a deeper feeling of security.

The third turning point was ending a long-term relationship. During that relationship, I had considered leaving several times, because deep down I felt we were not truly suited for each other. Still, there was comfort in having someone to share life with—someone to talk to, to travel with, to enjoy companionship. Letting go was not easy. I wondered whether I would meet someone similar—or better—in the future. Yet I chose to trust that God has His own good plans for me. So I took that step, giving myself another chance.

Looking back on all of this, my conclusion is simple: do not be afraid of change. Face the uncertainties of life with a positive and forward-looking attitude, and hold firmly to the belief that what God gives you is always the best.

With that kind of faith, you will no longer fear the unknown, and you will find the courage to keep walking forward, one step at a time.