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| My brother and I grew up in a strict, conservative Asian household where creative, liberal thoughts, although not discouraged, are either overlooked or frowned upon. My mother, a Filipino, had an Old Spanish-influenced iron-fisted upbringing and my dad, a Filipino-Chinese, although a kind and considerate man, was brought up with the uncompromising idea that women do all the household chores and that men, after a day's work, are to be served and tended to. He was also taught that men should never show any emotion. My dad has changed a great deal; he's a different man now but growing up in that kind of household didn't give us much leave to express ourselves. Filipino children are brought up to respect their elders to the point of absurdity. We are never to talk back, to reason out even if we know without a doubt that we are in the right. That is a mistake and a grave one. Kids get whipped with leather belts until they beg for mercy for talking back. We are to follow what our parents say blindly and without question because in a Filipino household, the adults are always right and the kids are not wise enough to make their own decisions. Age is a huge factor in the amount of respect and trust one gets from people. It often follows that when you're young,health supplement you don't know enough to decide for yourself and you are to do all the respecting. If you don't, you will feel the end of your father's belt on your bottom. My mother had always been the strict one and she firmly believed that how to discipline your children is by physical punishment. That was how she was brought up and that was what she knew. And so that was how she brought us up. When she wanted us to do something and we didn't do it, we were punished right away. I remember being sent to my room without dinner because I didn't let her pull out one of my baby teeth. I was scared, of course, that it was going to hurt. But she didn't acknowledge that. All she knew was that I wasn't obeying her and that I was to be punished because of that. I have always had liberal ideas since I was a child. I thought that that way of rising Kids were unjust and unreasonable. I believe that how to discipline your children is by doing it with fairness, respect, and friendship. I believe that besides being a parent to your kids, you must be their friends and confidants as well. If you're just going to be a parent, you're kids will never trust you as much. I believe that if your kids have done something wrong and you want them to see that what they did was wrong, you should talk to them about it; you shouldn't treat them like they're just kids who don't know any better and straightaway punish them without talking to them or explaining to them why there are being punished. |
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