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寫給阿孫的信 (8) 04/25/2019 生日快樂-慶生當思母辛苦 Remembering Mom's Hardship on Your Birthday
在地生活北美 2019/05/28 17:47:29

親愛的乃森:

你好嗎?好高興你滿六歲了,祝你生日快樂!那天在 Face Time 上你媽咪準備了一個蛋糕,點上了六根蠟燭,然後由妹妹起頭,大家一起唱生日快樂歌給你聽;先是唱英文版的,接著唱中文版。當你一口氣吹熄了所有的蠟燭時,人人都鼓掌歡呼,開心祝福你。你喜歡阿公阿嬤送你的禮物-太空梭樂高積木嗎?它可以變形成三種完全不同的模型,蠻有挑戰性的,希望你好好享受完成它的樂趣。

也許你會想,為什麼要慶祝生日呢?你的生日是你來到這個家的第一天。你是老大,也就是第一個出生的,所以大家都很期待,也很重視。你的爸爸、媽媽都還沒有照顧過小孩的經驗。雖然事前已盡力準備,你的來臨帶來了很多意想不到的忙碌,造成大家的手忙腳亂。為了照顧你,呵護你,他們動員了所有的資源,包括阿公和阿嬤也參與了這個過程,見證了你的出生和成長。

你出生以前,先在媽咪的肚子裏住了四十週,吃喝拉睡,全在裏面。從一個肉眼看不到的小細胞,長成一個七磅重的小寶貝。在這漫長的二百多天裏,全靠媽咪身體供應的養分和保護,讓你平安順利地成長。然而為了你,她可說是吃足了苦頭。

剛剛開始懷你的三個月裏,因為你的到來導致身體的改變,她常常感到噁心,想吐,沒有胃口。但是她總是努力去克服不舒服的感覺,勉強自己進食。即便如此,體重仍然沒有增加很多,到了快生你的時候,才只重了十二磅,而你的體重就有七磅。可見她在懷孕全程所吸收的養分,大部分都轉換成你了。

你在媽咪的肚子裏一天天地長大成形,漸漸長出頭與四肢。當媽咪把你第一次的超音波錄影傳給我們看的時候,我們都好興奮。後來你越來越好動,整天忙著伸展、踢腳、轉身、甚至打嗝,什麼動作都來,讓媽咪片刻不得安寧。尤其是她的膀胱受到你的壓擠,常常要上廁所,日日夜夜幾乎都無法好好休息。每天還要帶著你去上班,一直到產前的一個禮拜才不去。為了你,媽咪是不是好勞累?

更辛苦的還在後頭。你呱呱落地的那天,媽咪痛了八個小時才將你自然地生了下來。但是你一出生,全身泛黃,立刻就被醫生阿姨發現有黃疸的問題,要留在醫院的保溫箱裏照射藍光。媽咪兩天就出院了,但你卻繼續在醫院治療了將近一週之久,所以她仍然每天回醫院探視你。自己很累、很虚弱;可是又擔心、又焦急,一心想親自幫助你渡過難關。她疼愛你的心情,阿公都看在眼裏,阿孫你可了解?

你出院回家後,媽咪親自餵你母乳,每天照表操課。阿公和阿嬤也和她輪班照顧你,所以她一有空,尤其是半夜,常常起來擠母乳,分裝在奶瓶裏冰起來,等到我們值班時就可加熱餵你。有時候我們看到她坐在沙發上,一邊吸著,一邊就睡著了,好費事喔!正是因為母乳比牛奶更有營養,會帶給你更多對病菌的抵抗力,所以你媽咪不管再忙、再累,也要堅持餵你母乳,一直到你一歲半為止。今天你是個健康寶寶,很少生病,即使感冒也會很快恢復正常,並不是沒有原因的。當然媽咪細心的照顧也是功不可沒。

記得你唯一的嚴重生病是在在三歲左右。當時你感冒咳嗽,高燒不退,爸爸媽媽半夜送你去急診室,發現你已由支氣管炎轉成肺炎,他們不眠不休地輪流照顧你一週左右,和醫生阿姨通力合作,才能讓你打敗病菌感染,轉危為安。阿公到現在還忘不了他們那雙佈満血絲、焦急萬分的眼神。 

嬰兒時期的你很胖,手臂腿肚都是一圈圈的贅肉,長得很快;媽咪雖然為了餵你拼命地吃,但自己卻日漸消瘦,大家說她的肉都轉移到你的身上去了。因為太胖,所以你自己不會翻身,也學不會爬。俗諺説:「一視二聽三抬頭,四握五抓六翻身,七坐八爬九發牙,十捏周歲獨站穩。」可惜你把翻身和爬行的兩個動作都跳過了,雖然很晚才學會走路,但是一直到四、五歲時走跑跳時膝蓋還不怎麼會彎,一天到晚跌跌撞撞,大小腿上瘀青遍佈,教你媽咪糾心不忍了許久。

阿公的家鄉台灣有一首民謠叫做「搖嬰仔歌」,旋律非常優美。在你很小的時候,阿嬤曾經輕唱這首歌哄你入睡。你好像也很賞光,聽著聽著,很快就進入夢鄉了。你的媽咪雖然台語不流利,但聽久也學會了,常常哼給你聽:

嬰仔嬰嬰睏,一暝大一寸;
嬰仔嬰嬰惜,一暝大一尺。
搖子日落山,抱子金金看,
子是我心肝,驚你受風寒。

這首歌描寫的是媽媽疼惜骨肉的心情。她無微不至地照顧你,給予你溫飽,看著你能一天天地長大,就是她最大的安慰。現在她每天努力地上班賺錢 (爸爸也是一樣),供應你吃的、穿的、用的、上學的各個方面的需要;不止是在過生日這一天,阿公希望你能夠時時刻刻感念媽咪生你、養你的辛苦,珍惜一切得來的不易;不讓她操心,惹她生氣,做一個端端正正、健康陽光的好孩子。果真能夠做到如此的話,就是給媽咪最好的回報,也是你送給自己最棒的生日禮物。阿公一定要給你一個「讚」!


想你的阿公,                                                                                        

二〇一九年四日二十五日                                                                     

乃森六歲整


Dear Nathan:

How are you? I am so happy that you are six years old and wish you a happy birthday! On Facetime, your mommy prepared a cake, put on six candles, and then lead by your younger sister, everyone sang a happy birthday song to you; first the English version, then the Chinese version. When you blew out all the candles in one breath, everyone applauded and cheers you happily. Do you like the gift from grandma and grandpa - Space Shuttle Lego? It can be transformed into three completely different models, which are quite challenging. I hope you enjoy the fun of completing it.

Maybe you will think, why celebrate a birthday? Your birthday is the first day you come to this home. You are the eldest, i.e. the first baby was born, so everyone is looking forward to receiving your arrival and valuing it the most. Your mommy and daddy have no prior experience of taking care of children. Although they  have tried their best to prepare beforehand, your coming has brought a lot of unexpected busyness, causing everyone to be in chaos in the beginning. In order to take care of you and care for you, they have mobilized all resources, including grandma and grandpa who have participated in this process and witnessed your birth and growth.

Before you were born, you had been living in Mommy’s tummy for forty weeks, eating and drinking, sleeping, and discharging all in there. From a small cell that is invisible to the naked eye, grows into a seven-pound baby. In this long two hundred plus days, replying on the nutrients and protection provided by Mommys body, you was able to grow up safely and smoothly. However, for you, she can be said to have suffered a lot.

In the starting three months, because of your presence, her body changed. She often felt nausea, vomiting, and had no appetite. But she always tried to overcome the feeling of discomfort and forced her to at as much as she could . Even so, her  weight had not increased much. Before you were born, she only gained twelve pounds, while you already weighed seven pounds. It is obvious that most of the nutrients she absorbed during her pregnancy were converted into you.

You were growing up day after day in the belly of Mommy, and grew into a head and limbs. When Mommy sent us your first ultrasound video, we were so excited. Later, you became more and more active, and you were busy in all kinds of motion including stretching, kicking, turning, and even hiccupping all day long that made mommy restless for any moment. In particular, she needed to go to bathroom often because her bladder was crushed by you, and it is almost impossible to rest well day and night. She also carried you to work every day until a week before the birth. All mommy did was just for you, isnt she very tired?

More hard work was still behind. On the day you arrived, It took mommy eight hours to naturally give birth to you. But when you were born, your whole body turned yellow, and the doctor discovered immediately that you had a problem of jaundice. For treatment, you were requested to stay in the hospitals incubator to expose to blue light. Mommy was discharged from the hospital in two days, but you had been kept in the hospital for nearly a week. She still visited the hospital every day. Having been not only very tired and weak, but also very worried and anxious, she was determined to help you through the difficulties personally. Grandpa had witnessed her mood of loving you at that time, do you understand?

After you were discharged from hospital, Mommy personally breast fed by following the feeding schedule every day. Grandpa and grandma also took part in shifts with her, so she could rest. Therefore, when she was free, especially in the middle of the night, she would preserve her milk by squeezing it up to the spare bottles for cold storage. In our shifts we just warmed it up before feeding you. Sometimes we saw her sitting on the sofa, pumping, and falling asleep - it’s so tiring! Because breast milk is considered more nutritious than milk it will give you more resistance to germs. Thats why your mommy continued to feed your breast milk no matter how busy or tired she was, until you are one and a half years old. No wonder you had been a healthy baby, rarely sick, even quickly recovered from cold, Of course, mommys tender loving care is also indispensable.

I remember that your only serious illness occurred approximately at the age of three. At that time, you had a cold and cough, turned into a long lasting fever. Mom and Dad took you to the emergency room in the middle of the night and found that you had developed symptoms of bronchitis and pneumonia. They kept taking care of you restlessly for a week or so, and cooperated with the auntie doctor to help you defeat the infection. Finally the crisis was resolved and your health was restored. To date grandpa still cant forget the look of their pairs of red and anxious eyes.

You were very fat in your babyhood. There was sausage-like muscles accumulate on your arms and calves, and you grew very fast. Although Mommy was trying to eat a lot for feeding you, but she just got thinner. Thats why everyone said that her muscle was all transferred to you. Because you were overweight, you could not turn over yourself, and you could not learn to crawl. As the saying goes: "One, look; two, listen; three, look up; four, grip; five, grab; six, turn over; seven, sit; eight, crawl; nine, teeth, ten, pinch and one year old, stand alone." Unfortunately, you skipped both the steps of turning and crawling. Although you learned to walk later, but until you was four or five years old, you still didn’t bend your knees well when you was walking, running or jumping.  As a result, you stumbled quite easily and your legs had bruises all over. That made your mommy worry for a long time.

In grandpas hometown Taiwan, there is a folk lulluby called "Rock Baby Song", and its melody is very beautiful. When you were very young, grandma used to sing this song to make you fall asleep. You seemed to enjoy it, listening and listening, then fell asleep in a short time. Although your mommy was not fluent in Taiwanese, after listening for a while she picked it up rather quickly, and often made humming to you:

"Infants and infants are sleepy, one inch larger after one night;
Infants and infants are cherished, one foot larger after one night.
Rock my baby at sunset, holding and staring,
The child is my heart and soul, and I will protect you from cold."

This song describes the mood of the mother to pamper the baby as own flesh and blood. Your mommy takes care of you in every possible way, giving you food and clothing. Watching you grow up day by day is her greatest comfort. Now she works hard every day to make money (so does your daddy), to fulfill all the needs of your eating, wearing, using and going to school. Not only on the birthday, Grandpa hopes that you can always appreciate mommy for her hard work in giving birth to you and raising you, cherish all that is hard to get; dont let her worry or make her angry; be a good child with a correct, healthy and bright attitude. If you can do this, it would be the best reward for Mommy, and the best birthday present for yourself. Grandpa must give you a "Thumb-Up"!

Miss You,
Grandpa
April 25, 2019
Nathan was exactly six year old

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