Dear Frank,

To be honest, I have read what you shared here for several times. All I can say is I agree with you totally. I think the more mature one should include not only the positve principles but also negative principles since no one can promise and guarantee to manage one's life so perfectly or positively,  life has its ups and downs, bad days and good days, or positive emotions and negative feelings. 

Besides, no one should play the role as the giver all the time. Somehow, everyone should learn how to ask for assisstance or request for something in a skillful way. 

Maybe being a taker from time to time, learning how to be taken care of is the lesson I am eager to learn.

So far, I feel safe only in front of " Him", and play the role as a taker naturally from time to time. But maybe two of us are too passive and no one seems to have the willingness to take an active role. Hahahahaha

By the way, I really appreciate what you have shared here. Thanks a lot.

Helen