想不再受苦，就不要讓自己的心出軌出處:

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印隆有一位認識近二十年的朋友，她很優秀，但生活卻一直不順遂，常常跟印隆提及小時候的不愉快，及長大後所遇到的種種不如意事。同樣一件事，她可以重複多次不斷的訴苦，即使勸了她多次，也不見她放下。
其實不只是這位朋友，有類似習性的人還真不少，他們的共通點就是，放不下過去的遭遇，一直增添情緒於過去的回憶裡，結果在現實生活中，也一直重複與輪迴類似的不愉快經歷。
我們常說的「業力」，「業」的巴利文為「Kamma」（梵文：Karma），包含在五蘊的「行蘊」中。
所謂的「業」就是意志（思），也就是《地藏經》所說的：「起心動念，無非是業」。
因為有了決意（意志、思），才經由身、口、意發為行動。所以從心的造作、心的活動，就是業的產生，不論善、惡、無記的意念均是。其之所以被歸類在「行蘊」，即使因為此意志（心的造作、心的活動）能指揮心智發動身、口、意的活動，而產生業果，所以身、口、意被稱為「三業」。
但這個「業」，是造成生死流轉之因，每一個念頭、每一個行為都會造成業因，待這個因成熟之後，又興起新的緣。行為與結果的不斷循環，就是業的循環，在我們不斷的經歷生老病死之流轉時，同時又造了未來的業因。
因此，觀念影響行為，也就是影響業力。要不再受苦，就要從改變自己的觀念開始，即是改變習性。
起心動念，舉止動作，無非是業，所以修行者的把握當下，就是要善護心念，莫以善小而不為，莫以惡小而為之。「萬般帶不走，唯有業隨身」，「業」是只要造作了，就會產生其應有的果報。但我等佛弟子應該好好利用此法則，修福增慧，也就是佛陀教導我們的：「諸惡莫作，眾善奉行，自淨其意，是諸佛教」。
修行就是要照顧好自己時時刻刻的心念，如果每一心念都能照顧的好，絕對能利於眾生，這就是修行。證嚴上人說：「『修』就是修身養性，『行』就是端正行為…時時刻刻照顧好我們的心，愛護我們的心，不要讓自己的心出軌」。
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心態的力量  The Strength of the Strength, Mindset of the Mindset. The daughter complains toward the father, everything is all very difficult.
女兒向父親抱怨，事事都很艱難。
She hards put to cope with a life, seem a problem just resolve, the new problem appeared again, she was some tired.
她不知如何應付生活，好像一個問題剛剛解決，新的問題又會出現，她有些厭倦。
The father is a cook, bringing in the kitchen to her. He goes toward first to pour into some waters in three people's pot,
then puts on the prosperous fire. 
父親是一位廚師，把她帶進廚房。他先往三口鍋裡倒入一些水，然後放在旺火上。
Soon, boiling. He goes toward an one mouthful to put some carrots in pot, putting into the egg in the second pot,
putting  to become the coffee bean of the powder into  the third pot.
不久，水開了。他往第一口鍋裡放一些胡蘿蔔，第二口鍋裡放入雞蛋，第三口鍋裡放入碾成粉末的咖啡豆。
20 after minute, the father closed fire, getting out carrot, putting to go into a bowl, getting out an egg, putting to go into a pot,
then ladling up the coffee to a cup.
20分鐘後，父親把火關了，把胡蘿蔔撈出來，放入一個碗內，把雞蛋撈出來，放入一個鍋內，然後把咖啡舀到一個杯子裡。
The father turns round to ask a daughter : "Kid, what do you come in sight of?“
" Carrot, egg, coffee. "She say.
父親轉身問女兒：「孩子，你看到了什麼？」「胡蘿蔔，雞蛋，咖啡」。她說。
He lets her close to some, touch carrot. She takes notice of him them to become soft.
他讓她靠近  一些，摸摸胡蘿蔔。她注意到它們變軟了。
The father lets the daughter take an egg again, breaking it, shelling hull, this is a cook of egg.
父親又讓女兒拿一個雞蛋，打破它，剝掉殼，這是一個煮熟的雞蛋。
End, the father lets her drink an one mouthful coffee. Taste to the very thick coffee, the daughter smile, the voice asked a way:
最後，父親讓她喝了一口咖啡。嘗到濃濃的咖啡，女兒笑了，怯聲問道：
"Father, what does this mean?" The father says three kind things face same adverse circumstances-boil of boiled water.
「父親，這意味著什麼？」父親說，三樣東西面臨同樣的逆境 -- 煮沸的開水。
But its reflection is each not same. The carrot goes in to be strong and fructify before the pot,
putting into the boiled water, it become soft,become weak.
但其反映各不相同。胡蘿蔔入鍋前是強壯的、結實的，放進開水，它變軟了、變弱了。
The egg is originally crumbly, the very thin outer shell protects the internal organs of the liquid,
once the boiled water cook, the internal organs become hard.
雞蛋原來是易碎的，薄薄的外殼保護著液態的內臟，開水一煮，內臟變硬。
The powder form coffee bean then is very special, entering boiling water, they changed a water then.
粉狀咖啡豆則很獨特，進入沸水，它們便改變了水。
Canned learn the carrot,egg and coffee bean before the difficulties and adverse circumstances,
can accept defeat, can also become stronger-even can change environment.
在艱難和逆境前，可以學胡蘿蔔、雞蛋和咖啡豆，可以屈服，也可以變得更堅強甚至，可以改變環境。
The father say:
Your change not environment, but can change an oneself;
Your change settle a dispute actually, but can change an attitude;
父親說：
你改變不了環境，但可以改變自己；你改變不了事實，但可以改變態度；
Your change not past, but can change now;
You have no command over others, but can control an oneself;
你改變不了過去，但可以改變現在；你不能控制他人，但可以掌握自己；
You can't predict tomorrow, but can hold today;
You can't be everything smooth, but can be devote with fact;
你不能預知明天，但可以把握今天；
你不能樣樣順利，但可以事實盡心；
You can't or so weather, but can change a mood; You can't change facial appearance, but can emerge smiling face;
你不能左右天氣，但可以改變心情；你不能改變容貌，但可以展現笑容；
 
Yes, the mindset sometimes compares what all important.
Happy life guidebook Correct immediately while discovering mistake.
是的，心態有時比什麼都重要。
快樂人生指南，一發現錯誤，立即改正。
The poem phrase song that keeps firmly in mind oneself's fancy endow with.
Don't interrupt the other people's compliment to you.
牢記自己喜愛的詩詞歌賦。
不要打斷別人對你的稱讚。
Read some books more, watch some televisions less. The opinion be unsuited to,
can argue by reasoning, but can't insult and humiliate the other party.
多讀些書，少看些電視。意見不合，可據理力爭，但不可辱罵對方。
Bear in mind:
The great love needs to emit tremendous risk with outstanding achievement all.
謹記：偉大的愛和卓越的成就都需要冒極大的風險。
Respect other people, respect an oneself,
be responsible for own behavior.
尊重別人，尊重自己，
為自己的行為負責。
If fail, never forget the precept of（with）failure.
如果失敗了，千萬不要忘記失敗的教訓。
While being you to remember past years so over the life of （with） the happiness and the dignity,
can enjoy life again and happily.
過快樂及有尊嚴的人生，那麼，當你回想過去的歲月時，就可以再一次快樂地享受人生。
The thought and knowledge shared you with other people much, is attain immortal of one of the path.
多與別人分享你的思想和知識，是達到不朽的途徑之一。
The rule want to understand, but don't defend to the death, master to improvise.
規則要懂，但不要死守，要學會變通。
You of the personality be you of destiny.
你的性格就是你的命運。
Measure success with the price of pay.
用付出的代價去衡量成功。
Smile to connect to hear a telephone, the other party will feel you of smile.
微笑著接聽電話，對方會感到你的微笑。
Prepare to accept new thing at any time,
but don't throw away the thing that should cherish.
隨時準備接受新事物，但不要丟棄應珍惜的東西。